Sports Porn Star wrote: I believe that sex (at least for me) has been an aquired taste. I needed a safe (read, one I created and controlled) environment to explore and become comfortable with my sexuality. I believe that being married afforded me the saftey I needed. My H allowed me to try out my burgeoning sexuality with no pressure. We are now reaping the rewards of all these years of pent up passion. -------------
You also created and controlled the environment when you were LD, Nymph. It was more than just the setting, IMO. It was your willingness to explore. That's a beautiful thing!
I know my post seems dark and filled with doom . I wanted to post this so that there is a light at the end of the tunnel for any of the LD spouses that might be here and for the HD spouses, that they might understand how their LD spouse may be feeling about sex. I know that my sitch is not everyones, but I have the view of both sides and wanted to offer my .2 in hopes that it might help someone.
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
Was, I began to read, then post here. I read of former LDWs and their journeys. I gained insight and wisdom from everyone here and used that to grow. I have said before that for me, the best aphrodiasiac is understanding. Here, I got that. I felt that finally someone understood the scope of what I faced each day, and that was the turning point for me. I began to build on what I learned here and form my own plans, with encouragement I put them into action and, voila you have a happy Mrs. and Mr. Nymph!
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
Quote: I know my post seems dark and filled with doom . I wanted to post this so that there is a light at the end of the tunnel for any of the LD spouses that might be here and for the HD spouses, that they might understand how their LD spouse may be feeling about sex. I know that my sitch is not everyones, but I have the view of both sides and wanted to offer my .2 in hopes that it might help someone.
Which is why I was asking how you got from stomach turning to willing to experiment. W has made it pretty clear (again last night) that the sex is mostly just to keep me happy, although lately it has at least felt good (but not good enough for her to seek it out).
I have to find out what the schedule is for the weekend and have some fun things lined up. Even if the Lions lose, we win !
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
Quote: I believe that you and your husband will find a compromise in your relationship that keeps both of you happy. I believe that because I believe that you won't stop trying, and from what you have written, I believe that your husband loves you and won't stop trying either. I think that is a pretty good place to find yourself.
I appreciate your kind advice. My single HD sister thinks that part of my problem is that I was married too young and never "got my ya-yas out". I am trying very hard to make things work and I plan to continue trying, but I'm finding it hard to reach an adequate compromise. Maybe my repressed "ya-yas" have something to do with this. I am not quite as certain that my H is willing to to keep trying. This past weekend he said "I don't know if I can handle having these kind of "discussions" every weekend.". My reply was "I don't really like it either. Why don't you stop doing things that have to be "discussed?". He is definitely sending out a message that I am on the verge of "pushing" him too far.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I'm glad that you liked the sincerity with which I welcomed you back. That was stait from the heart, you do know that, don't you?
Ok, here's what I don't understand. You talked about being able to orgasm by your own hand 18 times. Oh Mikey when you're done you'll be so sore and chafed. Did you know that you can go blind from that kind of behavior???? Oh yes, that's true.
Is there money at stake? Why would you want to do this? Besides, one of your male friends here already pointed out that it would be very hard in a situation like this to gather any HARD evidence. So really, how are we to know it's true?(not that I would doubt your word or anything) Do you have any idea what the previous record that you are trying to break would be? I don't know Mikey, maybe I just don't get it.......... Besides when will you find time for all of this jerking around with all of the stalking that everyone is accusing you of?
I never said anything about 18 times. MM claimed a possibility of 12x in one day. I've done that, but only once and when I was young and foolish. (I was conscious for most of them, too. )
I simply wanted to see how many times I could. (I sacrificed my body for the good of scientific research.) Recovery time was shorter then, but it became extremely painful so I stopped before the day was out.
Mike - there's no conflict in this and stalking...they go "hand in hand"
. I wanted to post this so that there is a light at the end of the tunnel for any of the LD spouses that might be here and for the HD spouses, that they might understand how their LD spouse may be feeling about sex. I know that my sitch is not everyones, but I have the view of both sides and wanted to offer my .2 in hopes that it might help someone. 
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