Every time you catch yourself wanting to lie, take a deep breath and then just be honest no matter what. That will build your H's trust in you. I think that will work both ways. Both of you need to not catch each other in a lie and then the trust will grow.
I hope my H decides just that. I'll let you know how the "talk" goes.
Well, this weekend was pretty uneventful. I kinda hung around the house. I shampooed(sp) 3 area rugs. Exciting?
Well H and I have started this fun text messaging thing and we really have fun. Michelle, says in one of her books to change the method of communication. Texting has allowed us to really be open and share somethings without having to being interrupted. Does that makes sense? IOW, I can get my point across, he reads it, and then responds. It has been pretty cool for us.
Anywho, Monday nite we were having one of our text messaging sessions. We sometimes go back and forth for a couple of hours. We started talking about and our fantasies and such. Do you believe in 16 years we have never discussed these things? Well, at sometime I just got bold and text him and said, just pack your stuff and come home. We miss you(bad DB'ing). He didn't respond to that with yay or nay but he did come over and he stayed the nite. My theory is if that statement would have scared him off , he wouldn't have come and stayed the nite. The last time he did that was in, aside from last Saturday was in February!
OK.... We and it was so nice. He took his time and kissed my neck and all, but I was shocked when he turned my head to give me a passionate kiss on the lips. Wow! is always good, but this was so different. It was almost like my old H. I did slip up in the heat of the moment and said, I miss u. That is when he decided to give me a passionate kiss, although he didn't reciprocate the statement.
This is also the 1st time that he has and stayed while S was at home. He leaves for work at about 4:30am, but he would never stay coz we were concerned about confusing S.
This issue is concerning my sister. She is seeing a married man. I am trying my hardest to let her see that it is the wrong thing to do. He doesn't care about her. He tells her how bad his M is.............oh boy, this hits so close to home!
Print of some appropriate threads from this board for her to read - ones where the WAS told the LBS how bad things were, then later admitted that it was just a way to justify leaving and how they really love the LBS. And maybe challenge her to ask the LBS for HER perspective on the marriage?
There is nothing wrong with saying pack up and come home. You have let him know that the door is still open for him.
If you remember from my thread, my kids said that every night for months. First my H would ignore it, then he started saying I hear you and the night before he moved back he said tomorrow.
I think that fact that that was out there as an option helped him make that move home.
And good for your in-laws for helping nudge him along! My MIL told my H that he couldn't move in with her because she didn't think it was right to leave in the first place.
I am glad the texting has worked so well, we still email some but not as much as when he wasn't living here. Besides I had to be careful with what I said as I was sending it to his office and many places have policies about content of emails. I may have to check into this texting thing though....
I am sorry your sister has chosen to be an OW. I find it ironic that she hasn't learned from your pain. I agree that there are some threads on here that might open here eyes - check out the infidelity area. That is sad, and the last thing you need on your plate right now.
I'll keep praying for you and your H - and hope that his path leads him home.
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"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
and our fantasies and such. Do you believe in 16 years we have never discussed these things? Well, at sometime I just got bold and text him and said, just pack your stuff and come home. We miss you(bad DB'ing). He didn't respond to that with yay or nay but he did come over and he stayed the nite. My theory is if that statement would have scared him off , he wouldn't have come and stayed the nite. The last time he did that was in, aside from last Saturday was in February! 
