HP wisely advised:
My advice is to be loving and kind to her while still maintaining what you will and will not accept from your sex life. I KNOW this is a hard line to walk..
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I agree with you and work to do this. However, it has been difficult for me to show non-sexual affection to her when I knew that she didn't want me sexually. (That says to the HD they're worthless as a human being, AYWK. ) Consequently, I've done a lousy job of it.

PM has helped me define ground to stand on. Before that, I was trying to jump through the hoops to get her to bed me. It never worked (see HD's Moving Target post). So I was an a$$hole about it. I know there is a difference in me now, but my W hasn't had long to see it. To her, I may still be one, just with a M book to "justify" it.

I'm not demanding that she knock my socks off. Like you, I just want desire-filled sex. And she's starting to show some desire.

Mike - who prolly won't tell the W that HoneyPot sends her some horniness (not THAT stoooopid)