Uhm, yep, you do. Although the episode you mentioned doesn't seem to extreme in the crazymaking world, I think it still was unnecessary.
But from my viewpoint, you listed more positives than negatives, which leads me to think that your focusing on the positives. Which is good in my book.
But yes, there will be neg's. If we can become adept at recognizing these times and backing off, cooling down and thinking DB all the way, these times may get further and further in between one another.
What do you think?
Triple J
Things were different then. All is different now. I tried to explain, somehow..........
Eddie Vedder (Pearl Jam)
Hi Slowly, just stopping by to catch up and check in.....I'm so glad the house is a becoming a big plus for you and NG.
I sure understand your crazymaking....I go there all the time, as you well know. And I struggle constantly to stop it.
I like the post about responding to your H "as if" he's what you want him to be.....I think there's a lot to be said for the effectiveness of that, and am going to try to really take it to heart myself. Take care, I'm thinking of you! Deb
Glad to hear things are going well. Keep focusing on the positive things. I think it is really hard sometimes to stop the questions about the OP.
I have never asked those kinds of questions when I'm happy, only when I'm upset.
As soon as I start to get upset, I do something that will get me in a better frame of mind, or think of something that makes me happy. I find it is a lot easier to make myself happy as soon as I start to be upset, than is to not ask the wrong questions when I'm already upset.
Things I think of to make me happy:
1. Life is beautiful. 2. Although we're going through tough times, we're blessed with so much. 3. My nephew (3mos) smiling 4. Scenes from my favorite movies/TV shows 5. The first time I met my W
Just checking in to see how you are doing. I have come to understand a lot about what h is going through. We wondered about the mood swings i was having and it is because of his mid life crisis and with the help of snodderly and sting i have laid to rest some of the issues.
Leg is getting better and PMA is at an all time high H has made contact with me every day for this whole week. WOW i can't believe it hope it continues. 2 of these contacts were visits that lasted 2 to 3 hours. Has not gone to his buddies all week. And will spend hours im'ing me.
Things are looking very good Hope your situation is as good Thanks for all your help and i wish you the best Believe
