Yes, smoking is an addiction, which is why after quitting for 24 years, its disturbing to hear she has started again.
LL, I didn't get much sleep last night, so I had lotsa time to think about it ...
I nevered smoked and neither of parents or grandparents smoked (and to complete the circle, my sister never has either.) I really don't know why I have such strong aversion to smoking other than I find nothing about appealing. The smell is a major turn off, so is kissing some one who has smoked ... and basically I have a very hard time watching someone do something harmful to themselves (& others) and accepting it. A trait that has contributed to where CAW & I are at now. I've been working hard on this for a while now and have been doing pretty good at it, but this latest development is proving to be a formidable challenge. I feel like CAW has put up another wall between us at a time where I was feeling we actually may be getting closer.
She may not be smoking around D11 now, but what worries me is when the cravings increase to where she will accept its alright to smoke in front of D11. Its been less than a week since she's started and last night she already asked if she can have one when with us. I think its very realistic to consider when the addiction becomes second nature, she will just stop being considerate around D11. Then what?
LNL, thank you for offering your thoughts. They have given me food for thought. I guess the question becomes which is more important ... D11's happiness or her health? Afterall, if I do raise a stink (yes, pun intended), about CAW's smoking around D11, it most likely would turn ugly and D11 would not be happy about that.
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