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Do any of the HD partners ever wonder if you partner is mbating instead of ML to you? I guess I ask because most of the time I feel that's the case with hubby. That is what hurts and drives me nuts. Feeling like he has a sex drive but is taking care of it himself instead of coming to me? I was curious if I am the only one who feels that way. From what I have read most of you feel your partner just have a LD and that's it.

I think mine is just LD, and that's it. I would be very, very surprised if she "serves herself." There's just nothing there....

I know mine does. He was also heavly into internet porn, which he tried to hide, but with me working in I.T.C he didnt hide it very well I told him that it was unfair that he was withholding sex from me but getting his pleasure from the internet, I was not impressed I have no problem with porn, and hes not using it instead, because now its stopped our sex life has not improved.
I myself Masturbate, but find it unfullfilling I want my partner to want me and its just not the same. It also makes me feel more unwanted that I am in a relationship and have to resort to self pleasuring

I was in the same situation. My H was using porn and not me . Things have dramatically improved in our relationship. My previously LDH has been away from home training for a new job for a few weeks now. He called me yesterday and said that he was interested in some phone sex. I thought he might be kidding and so replied jokingly. He said he was serious and it was "necessary". I proceeded quite happily to give him what he wanted. This makes me think he's really over the porn thing because it would have been much easier for him to just use that while he's away from home. Read some of my earlier posts. SSM and PM really work.

P.S. My H also told me he bought me some jewelry that he thought would look good on me. He's being sexy AND romantic! I think I must be in the twilight zone. LOL

I'm pretty sure mine isn't either...he seems pretty repressed all the way around. Although the counseling seems to be helping...slowly, but working nonetheless :-)

Phone sex...cool. My wife would give/request phone sex about when porkers take to wing.
I once asked my wife when the last time was that she mbated. She answered that it was about 4 months earlier (and we hadn't had sex in the interim). I can't imagine going a week without an O, much less 4 months. And then she has the gall to tell me that she has a normal sex drive. Yes, she really said this, about a month ago. I told her that I didn't think she did, but that I wouldn't argue with her about it.

Hairdog

My LDW doesn't - at least not that I know about. I've heard her express disgust that anybody would do that on more than one occassion, so I'm pretty certain that she doesn't.

Wildebube

I know mine doesn't. I got her a vibrator years ago and the batteries have died due old age rather than being used.

There are points that I think she doesn't even think about sex at all, although for years my only guideline was figuring when the midpoint in her cycle is during the month, i.e. the "horny" point and 1) hope that she is healthy, 2) I haven't committed some major gaff, like brathing wrong or saying the wrong thing or some other error that I didn't know was an error and 3) She that was not tired at bed time, other than that it was wait for next month. Oh wait, I'm still doing that.

Scott

My H doesn't due to religious reasons.

This is quite easy for him to pull off, since his body is not screaming out for sex the way that mine does.

I don't mb either and it is VERY hard for me. It is next to impossible to be completely dependent on H but I struggle thru, day by day.

I have often wondered about some of the other LD spouses..it just sounds too suspicious to me that they can go months on end with no relief! Especially the women who plow through romance novels and stuff like that. It doesn't jive, ya know?

Would he give you an honest answer if you asked him, Smiles? Mine did and I know he is telling the truth. I did not think that he was prior to me asking him and I would have been freakin astonished if he had said yes.

HP