How about if when you take care of yourself and he comes to you just take out that bottle of AstroGlide and liberally apply it. If you think he's wondering why you're dry tell him you wanted him so much you had to do something for yourself. You might then mention how much you'd rather do it with him than as a solo flight.
Thanks Tom for the advice.. I am honest with my H I just don't always share everything in that area.. It is a good idea if I can bring myself to say that. I worry that if I tell him that he will in turn reject me and take care of himself because he feels rejected by me. I guess what I worry about more than anything is making things worse instead of better but I do need to be willing to try and if it backfires then try something else and be honest letting him know it was just trying something new.. Because yes I would rather be with him..
