Christine, I just was asking where you were. I am so happy to see you back and hear that things are going well for you. Congratulations.
My H wants lasik, you will have to fill us in when you have time on the surgery and how you feel about it now.
In the meantime, I just want to say thank you, thank you, thank you for this quote...
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-Don't take ANYTHING personally. Check your pride at the door. The WAS will say things that are crazy, untrue and hurtful, but it's not about you...it's about them. They say ugly and hurtful things because they feel ugly and hurt. Christine
I am so hurting today and your post is so timely. You have saved me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
My H is such a caring, loving man and it's easy to forget the DB principles that got us as far as this. You are so correct, you can't take anything personally. I know this but it is so hard to remember when you are hurting.
I have been ready to call our D busted and instead, H reminded me that we are still in trouble. I was ready to throw in the towel until your post.
Instead, today I will go to lunch with him just as he asked. He said to me the other day that it is fun to come home to me when I am in a good mood (which is frequently) -and this is quite a turn around from him not wanting to even look at me.
You have saved me from a certain disaster.
Welcome back, and please keep us updated this time. We are all so happy for you!
Thanks so much for sharing. It's helped me find a little second wind on a day I'm feeling particularly hopeless.
I second the request for more info on what works. Especially info on the ups and downs. I was feeling great a few days ago and now I'm again thinking I've been completely fooling myself as things with H seem to back where we were months ago. Did your H go back and forth, connecting and then distant again?
Hi Christine!!!!welcome back, and I am so happy for you!!!this is such great news. I'm still praying for my miracle, but you helped me to get this far months ago!!!!! I am also anxiously awaiting more info on what worked for you, and particularly on HOW to Have An Affair with your H. Are there some books/cd's you would particularly recommend?
Hello Christine....well you struck a wonderful chord with many of us.....we all are working hard for the SUCCESS, and your enthusiastic, helpful post encourages us all.
I, too, am beginning to date my H. It's going fairly well, except this morning we had our first difficult encounter. He, pointed out some things about my communication style...that were a flashback for him. Instead of being defensive, I listened and have been thinking long and hard about my style, especially when I'm stressed.
Could you visit my post and give me some insights?
I will be following your sitch, as we all will here....thanks for sharing and giving me a shot in the arm. Quite timely!
