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I really am trying.

I am dealing with more now than I ever expected to have to deal with or even be capable of dealing with in my life.

I am looking at women I know who now live alone and trying to fit myself into that mold.

Marriage just didn't work for me.

I always thought I would always be married, I would have never predicted that I would end up spending my life alone.

Pam, get out of that rut before you start a huge pity party! You are assuming alot in that last post. You don't have to fit yourself into any mold!!

Maybe I mean mindset rather than mold?

I think it takes a different type of person to live alone and handle everything alone.

At least a different type of person than I have always been in the past.

Pam,

You are doing the black/white thinking again...

You said:

Marriage just didn't work for me.

I always thought I would always be married, I would have never predicted that I would end up spending my life alone.

Can you see it?

The past does not predict the future.

And you aren't alone. You got this huge BB full of people that love you!

You have learned that Marriage takes a lot of work. That there are a lot of strategies and effor that goes into making it work. You have learned and are still learning...thanks to Michele and Divorce Busting. The place where your marriage to David ended up is a reflection on him and the relationship you had together...and you. Your efforts have affected the situation and the outcome. Perhaps not in the way you hoped...with the ultimate happy ending. But it DID affect it...for the good. Because of your efforts, you have the choice on whether or not you and David will remain friends. Without all the effort you put into your relationship...would this still have been the case?

You have the power to change things Pam.

There is no telling what the future holds. But I am positive that you are capable of creating a beautiful future for yourself.

So, let's focus on that!

Hugs.

Have to get a tooth pulled

It has been infected for awhile and I have been ignoring it.

First available appt. is after the D will be final so no dental insurance.

PIP says:

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There is no telling what the future holds. But I am positive that you are capable of creating a beautiful future for yourself.

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Pam says:

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Have to get a tooth pulled

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I don't think this is what PIB meant...laughing out loud....
Cathy

So is anything ever going to go right?

Pam,

You said:

I know and I do have some friends but that isn't like having an h, and yeah I am having a pity party today. Sorry. I have to get better soon cause there is no way to go but up.


The only way that I have found to make things better is to take action.

It's like your tooth.

Ok...it has an infection...so...you have a choice:

Sit around and wait for it to get better.

Or take action.

If that action doesn't relieve the pain, take a different action.

You've been doing very well on taking action recently. Hanging out with friends, looking at houses.

You were feeling much better too.

Then this afternoon, that changed...

So...what action can you take right now. Little or big...doesn't matter.

What action can you take right now to feel better?

Hugs.