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I just feel so hopeless and so like I am losing it today.

WHAT HAPPENED?

I was doing pretty good. Is it all hormones? Or the divorce being almost final just sinking in more?


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Pam,

Have you read the Power of Now? There is a section in there on woman which is very enlightening especially in relation to our monthly cycles. It might give you a new perpective on PMS.

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Pam,

Have you read the Power of Now? There is a section in there on woman which is very enlightening especially in relation to our monthly cycles. It might give you a new perpective on PMS.

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Pam,

You said:

I just feel so hopeless and so like I am losing it today.

WHAT HAPPENED?

I was doing pretty good. Is it all hormones? Or the divorce being almost final just sinking in more?


I suspect it is very simple actually.

Based on your posts, it looks like you took a turn for the worse when you stopped focusing on yourself and your plans..and started speculating on David and his plans.

I hope that helps.

Hugs.


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I feel better I think a combination of things. I'm sure the main one is I think David forgives me for my crazymaking this morning. The other might be actually eating some lunch.

I called him because I just didn't want to stop talking on a bad note. I waited till after lunch to give me plenty of time to be a bit calmer.

He said he appreciates getting my newsletter and I explained that I had only wanted to check and make sure he got it because of the apology in it, that I didn't intend to be a b*tch this morning.

He said it just comes naturally huh? But he laughed and I did too and said yeah it comes with the hormones.

He says he hates PMS too, I said you don't have it, he said it spills over.

I apologized for this morning, Assuming he was snapping. He said no just busy, sort of curt. Then in a minute he whispered if I sound sort of distant there are a whole bunch of people around.

I thought that was nice of him. I said well I just wanted to make sure you understood I was apologizing for this morning and over IM sometimes it is hard to tell. No tone. So then he made a low noise like I was getting a dial tone. Then I got off as there were people there and I had said what I wanted to anyway.

So I guess overall maybe his mood is pretty good, which it should be I know.

But I am glad not to have ended talking with him on a bad note.


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Hi Cathy,

I have never read it. Maybe I need too.


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Hi PIB,

Probably you are right. I started letting the pain take over instead of focusing on what I have to get done in a very short amount of time.

Wish the darn loan lady would call me back.


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Pam,

FORGET DAVID!!!!! You don't need to be thinking about him at all!!!!! It's ancient history now!!!!! Focus on PAM!!!!!

Don't worry about what he thinks, does or wants. Think about what Pam wants. Peace, a different place to live, and work towards that!!


When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
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Hi Pattie,

The problem is it doesn't feel like ancient history yet.

It still feels painful, raw, and fresh.


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Of course it hurts. But, Pam, you're still hanging onto that rope. Let it go!! It's not attached to anything. Let it go! Give this at least some months to pass. Then see how it feels.


When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
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