Our whole family is invited to a wedding out of town next month.
I plan to invite our kids to travel with me if they like but to have the freedom to do as they choose. I will inform her I believe it’s best that you make your own arrangements.
STBXW: Rock are we going to travel together to the Wedding as a family? R: No STBXW: Why? R: You know why
Never address it again after that exchange.
Don't answer the why. She's knows. Leave it at your no. Then walk away.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
My personal growth is on track. I am focused on my work and it’s going well. Playing music. Jamming with a friend. Dancing once or twice a week. Therapy is going well also.
My personal growth is on track. I am focused on my work and it’s going well. Playing music. Jamming with a friend. Dancing once or twice a week. Therapy is going well also.
Would you mind articulating in as much details as you can?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I danced tonight. There was an intermediate level Salsa workshop - I joined without a partner so rotated through lots of partners followed by a social event. I have been improving and receiving positive feedback. I considered joining more formal classes but have decided to hold off on that for now. I worked earlier in the day and then went over to friends for dinner.
I am also teaching in a local college and that’s going well. Enjoying the faculty group.
I play guitar and have been hosting occasional jam sessions with a freiend at my place.
Therapy lately has been addressing standing up for myself and for the benefit of what my kids see from me.
W texted asking if she could take me out for a meal today breakfast lunch or dinner. Planning to be busy (I am actually) and haven’t responded. I could make time around dinner to see what she has in mind. Approach suggestions welcome and appreciated.
Well last night dinner with my son was wonderful. It was after a crisp winter afternoon of adventuring which filled my bucket to overflow. Oh, and daughter came over earlier as well. Planning good meals today as well and I got a full day of work
This evening after dinner, I plan to have time to myself peace, reflection, and focus
She’s trying to hook you back in. Don’t take the bait!
D
I agree with the DO NOT RESPOND.
For most others here, I would give other advise. I would give advise on building some sexual tension (or whatever might be effective) , but not in your sitch.
STFU and crickets when she is contacting you (unless one of your children is in the hospital etc)
She needs to feel she has lost you. And she needs to feel that for a long time.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
