Yesterday was a tough one. Started feeling really down and lonely. Even though she’s here and things are “ok”, we don’t really talk much about anything of real substance. I miss having my W, feels like a roommate. Talking to friends isn’t the same as being able to sit and chat in the evening with the person you have loved for 30+ years. The loneliness is very difficult sometimes. Good thing is I didn’t bring it up to W. Just a crappy day. On the plus side, d13 had a bball game last night. Her freshman game was cancelled but she played jv. She played over half the game and did great. Doesn’t often get much playing time on jv so that was nice.
sorry i've been there and know exactly what you mean .
question: did the guy show up at your daughter's game?
No, he hasn’t been to any of our home games. He lives less than a half mile from our high school so I’m surprised. The games he attended were in the county he is originally from. At least he’s staying away from our home school. Three more weeks and bball is done, in to softball and track. Shouldn’t be an issue then.
Yesterday was a tough one. Started feeling really down and lonely. Even though she’s here and things are “ok”, we don’t really talk much about anything of real substance. I miss having my W, feels like a roommate. Talking to friends isn’t the same as being able to sit and chat in the evening with the person you have loved for 30+ years. The loneliness is very difficult sometimes.
Get 5 (or more) guy friends to hang out with. I have been going to the new local pool hall, for the last several months. I make it a point to get to know one or 2 new people each time I go. I am sure you can do the same. Even if it is a different hobby.
I have 2 guy friends that talk on a deeper level (relationship issues, parenting, family drama etc). Find a couple of these. The are your emotional support now, not W.
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Yesterday was a tough one. Started feeling really down and lonely. Even though she’s here and things are “ok”, we don’t really talk much about anything of real substance. I miss having my W, feels like a roommate. Talking to friends isn’t the same as being able to sit and chat in the evening with the person you have loved for 30+ years. The loneliness is very difficult sometimes.
Get 5 (or more) guy friends to hang out with. I have been going to the new local pool hall, for the last several months. I make it a point to get to know one or 2 new people each time I go. I am sure you can do the same. Even if it is a different hobby.
I have 2 guy friends that talk on a deeper level (relationship issues, parenting, family drama etc). Find a couple of these. The are your emotional support now, not W.
I understand what you’re saying however, I was commenting on missing my wife. I do have someone to talk to for emotional support. I miss the companionship. The way things used to be I suppose. Things seem fake now and that’s unfulfilling.
Last edited by DnJ; 02/05/2303:35 PM. Reason: Corrected typo.
Yesterday was a tough one. Started feeling really down and lonely. Even though she’s here and things are “ok”, we don’t really talk much about anything of real substance. I miss having my W, feels like a roommate. Talking to friends isn’t the same as being able to sit and chat in the evening with the person you have loved for 30+ years. The loneliness is very difficult sometimes. Good thing is I didn’t bring it up to W. Just a crappy day.
I hear you. It's an incredibly difficult situation, and it certainly does get lonely at times. Hang in there...
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
Well, you are like 10 minutes south of the North Pole, so freezing might be true for you....
Lol.
The past days have been -30C to -35C. Today is a balmy -27C.
I shiver at half your posts. You're retired...some people travel south for warmer pastures!
I want to head south and it’s nowhere near that cold here!
Haha.
It’s toasty warm inside my house!
I could throw some sand on the floor, get out the kiddy pool, and pretend I’m at the resort.
I do enjoy going on trips. However, I’ve never had the desire to be a snowbird and live somewhere warmer for a few months or half the year.
Today it nicely warmed up a bit. I’ve got to clear the foot and a half of snow that blew into the lane over the past two days. Yay, I get play around with the snowblower and tractor. Just bigger toys is all. Lol.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
