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If anybody is looking to watch something just super sweet that will restore your faith in love, search youtube for "soft zeenunew moments" .

They are the two stars of a Thai gay romcom, who fell in love while making the drama and have come out publicly as a couple since then. They are so adorably in love with each other, all googly eyes and giggles and tenderness. It's just clips of them IRL. I stumbled across it and it made me want to watch the drama (which is actually a little problematic but their chemistry is great). Just nice to see such genuine, sweet love between two people. Better than cat videos!

Question for those on the dating apps (my bff is considering dipping her toe in again) - I know that on Bumble, the women contact the men first. Does that mean that men only see the profiles of the women who contact them?

no. i believe men can look and like but not initiate..
But, as my ex-college roommate said, "Are you sure you want to be with a guy who waits for you to initiate? I mean, think of what that says about him."

The whole 24 hour thing on there sounds like a pain, anyway. I just thought there might be a benefit for her if it worked that way, since she has a public occupation.

As for this: “Are you sure you want to be with a guy who waits for you to initiate? I mean, think of what that says about him."

Well, having dated a variety of alpha males throughout my life, a beta male doesn’t sound so bad now, lol! One of the happiest marriages I know is between a musician friend who is a lot like me, and her sweet and caring beta male husband. (He even got much handsomer over the 30+ years they have been married. )

I was reading her an article describing the current apps, and her comment about Rata was that it was probably “full of narcissists” lol. I used OK Cupid in the past and liked it, but worry that it might be considered outdated now? Hinge seems to be popular, what do people think about that app?

Raya not rata, darn autocorrect . And I meant I read the article to my bff, not the married friend, just to be clear.

Another song suggestion for those who want to hear beautiful voices and harmonies:

Look on youtube for Nunew Nat Lovesick Girls. Two gay Thai actor/singers doing a beautiful acoustic cover of the BlackPink song Lovesick Girls in Korean and English. Stuck in my head today. (For those who don't know, BlackPink is THE biggest Korean girl group, they're headlining at Coachella, there's a netflix documentary etc. )

I see OLD discussion going on again on another thread. I'm still not really ready for it but inching closer to being ready I think. Still in touch with Spa Guy but only occasionally.

I do have a new correspondent via a Facebook group I belong to. It's a Korean-English Language exchange group. (No, DON'T WORRY, I will NOT be starting up a long distance relationship with someone who LIVES IN KOREA lolol. That's too far even for me.). He doesn't actually seem to be a scammer, but he is a bit too bitter and depressive. However, we discuss music and he sends videos of places in Seoul where he lives (like the local bar playing 80's British music like Flock of Seagulls and the Cure lol). He gets to work on his English and I get practice in Korean. We can correct each other's grammar and spelling. We also chat on an app called Line which uses Papago to translate, so if I write a comment in English, I can see the Korean translation right away and am learning from that comparison.

Interestingly, he remembers what a big deal it was getting Hershey's chocolate bars from the American soldiers when he was a kid. Apparently that was still a big thing even in the 70's as Korea was still a very poor country at that time.

My oldest son and I went to the movie theater last Friday to see the movie version of the BTS concert in Busan (their final concert before going on hiatus to do their mandatory military service). It was SO GOOD!!!

For those of you that have HBO Max, I recommend the new show Tokyo Vice. Based (very loosely) on the true story of an American journalist who worked on a Japanese newspaper in the late 1990's, and wrote investigative journalism about the Yakuza (Japanese Mafia). One of the actors is this great young Japanese actor Show Kasamatsu - he has the most expressive face. The show is in English with occasional Japanese dialogue with subtitles.

Awwww....yesterday my youngest sent me a picture of his "Employee of the Month" plaque at his new job! So proud of him.

Lol - so my Korean language exchange partner accidentally sent something in the chat app to me that was meant for someone else at 4:30 in the morning. Okay, that happens. It's a 7 hour time difference. But then he sent me NINE separate messages apologizing for waking me up LOL!!!! Dude!!!

kml,
Any closer to dating?