Forgot to add a big detail: I applied for retirement today and should be officially retired on my birthday 1/1! I've looked forward to this moment for so long, now I'm a little apprehensive about it. Going to take a month or so off to work on the house and myself. Get back to work somewhere after that.
Congrats on filing for retirement!
Remember the advice you got here, and make sure to consult L about the implications of retirement and a new job in relation to the possibility of divorce. Be smart financially and make a good business decision:
Originally Posted by BL42
Originally Posted by Kind18
If it looks like she is imminently going to file, I’d retire. Go through the divorce and financial split while you are retired. She gets her money at that point based on you not earning any more. Perhaps won’t get alimony if you’ve retired.
Get the $$s split done so you lose as little as possible. Once it’s all squared away, then you can look at deciding to get a new job.
If you start a new job, well paid, and then she files - it could put you in a much worse financial position.
Kind18's advice seems VERY wise. Way better to base support off a retirement / little income than a nice new flashy job. Be smart. And don't feel bad about getting the best deal. SHE is the one who wants a divorce.
Yeah, that's the plan. We can get by on my retirement so no real hurry.
Still cruising along. Went out with one of my oldest friends Friday, he was my best man when we married. We kind of grew apart due to me becoming his supervisor at work. Had a really nice time hanging, a lot of laughs. Spent most of this weekend together. Had a ball game 2 hours away yesterday afternoon. On the drive home W and d13 were sleeping. My mind started going places it shouldn’t. Was pretty irritated by time we got home. W suspected something was up but I played it off and went for a run. At 10 pm. with a belly full of Mexican food😁. Came home in a good mood, showered, and all was well. D had another game this afternoon. Afterwards we had lunch and then D and I went to a friends house with an indoor court. Put her through a tough shooting workout for an hour, left W at home. About to shower, have my last beer until next weekend, and watch tv-alone.
Mike, remember GAL is not a checklist item. It isn't something that you do a few times and check off. It is ongoing. Sounds like you did a good job this weekend. Now what are your plans this week?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Mike, remember GAL is not a checklist item. It isn't something that you do a few times and check off. It is ongoing. Sounds like you did a good job this weekend. Now what are your plans this week?
I almost have to make it a check list item so I don’t find excuses not to. I’ve spent a lot of years doing nothing for myself and it’s too easy to slide back into that comfort zone. I’ll be running or hitting the gym every day for sure. D has basketball 5 days this week. I signed up to make Chili for a huge tournament our high school is putting on this weekend, that’s not something I would normally do even though I enjoy cooking. Planning on going one night to a new bar or restaurant. Have to pick a place still.
Hopefully when I’m retired next month, GAL will become easier and not so scheduled. I’ll have much more time on my hands. Planning on working on our house and myself for a couple of months. Lots of projects to do around here.
Mike, remember GAL is not a checklist item. It isn't something that you do a few times and check off. It is ongoing. Sounds like you did a good job this weekend. Now what are your plans this week?
I almost have to make it a check list item so I don’t find excuses not to. I’ve spent a lot of years doing nothing for myself and it’s too easy to slide back into that comfort zone. I’ll be running or hitting the gym every day for sure. D has basketball 5 days this week. I signed up to make Chili for a huge tournament our high school is putting on this weekend, that’s not something I would normally do even though I enjoy cooking. Planning on going one night to a new bar or restaurant. Have to pick a place still.
That's fair. My point was more that with checklist items we tend to check them off and consider them done. GAL had persisted for me well into my reconciliation. It will always be part of life now.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Mike, remember GAL is not a checklist item. It isn't something that you do a few times and check off. It is ongoing. Sounds like you did a good job this weekend. Now what are your plans this week?
I almost have to make it a check list item so I don’t find excuses not to. I’ve spent a lot of years doing nothing for myself and it’s too easy to slide back into that comfort zone. I’ll be running or hitting the gym every day for sure. D has basketball 5 days this week. I signed up to make Chili for a huge tournament our high school is putting on this weekend, that’s not something I would normally do even though I enjoy cooking. Planning on going one night to a new bar or restaurant. Have to pick a place still.
That's fair. My point was more that with checklist items we tend to check them off and consider them done. GAL had persisted for me well into my reconciliation. It will always be part of life now.
Thanks Steve, I get what you mean. It’s a bit of struggle to break the old habits, definitely don’t want it to be a temporary thing.
