Also on our first date I explained to her my kids were very active and I am very involved. Also that I saw them a lot. The one thing that did throw her off and it’s no one’s fault. When I first met her I was living with my parents till I found a home. So my kids didn’t sleep over ever. So the first 10 months we go used to seeing each other all the time, me never having the kids for a weekend (until I bought my home) and we didn’t live together obviously, so me seeing her, I scheduled that around my kids activities. Again she didn’t feel like she was “second” to my kids. I saw her all the time one way or another. I hope this makes sense.
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
A lot of times I only care how others feel. I hate making others feel bad or that I let them down. So a lot of times I just suck it up and worry about the other person.
Do you see how disingenuous this can be? you're not being forthcoming about your needs, which ultimately breeds resentment and problems in relationships.
You guys really need to work on your communication with a professional.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Also on our first date I explained to her my kids were very active and I am very involved. Also that I saw them a lot. The one thing that did throw her off and it’s no one’s fault. When I first met her I was living with my parents till I found a home. So my kids didn’t sleep over ever. So the first 10 months we go used to seeing each other all the time, me never having the kids for a weekend (until I bought my home) and we didn’t live together obviously, so me seeing her, I scheduled that around my kids activities. Again she didn’t feel like she was “second” to my kids. I saw her all the time one way or another. I hope this makes sense.
