Our daughter invited both W and I to her birthday party along with a lot of D’s friends. D also invited a married couple who are long time close friends of our family. W told me she was unhappy with those friends being there and that she wished she could leave out the back door instead of facing them. I validated and didn’t try to solve it for her but I believe that W feels shame and judgment over her wayward actions. Anyway she did end up talking to those friends and left the party early. This morning D came and gave me a huge hug. She loved her party and had a blast as did I!
Our daughter invited both W and I to her birthday party along with a lot of D’s friends. D also invited a married couple who are long time close friends of our family. W told me she was unhappy with those friends being there and that she wished she could leave out the back door instead of facing them.
If you've read a lot of stories here you'll find it's fairly common for WAS/WSs to all of a sudden cut out people in their lives who disapprove of their actions and gravitate to those who accept their affair(s)/divorce.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I validated and didn’t try to solve it for her but I believe that W feels shame and judgment over her wayward actions.
Could be, but like LH said...
Originally Posted by Rockon
Anyway she did end up talking to those friends and left the party early.
My ExW left our then 5yo son's birthday party earlier to go talk to OM1. Sad.
Originally Posted by Rockon
This morning D came and gave me a huge hug. She loved her party and had a blast as did I!
Good stuff, Rockon. It's all about you and the kids from now on. Keep being the best dad you can be.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
Then she sent this, “I want to let you know that I am really trying to have a friendship with you.” Not sure how to respond to that.
#1) 98% STFU- No question about the kids-->No response. Listen to LH19. #2) 2% Truth dart- Spouse cheated --> "I have no intentions on being friends with anyone that chooses to end a marriage the way you did."
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
D also invited a married couple who are long time close friends of our family. W told me she was unhappy with those friends being there.."
Perfect. They are now YOUR friends.
Originally Posted by Rockon
and that she wished she could leave out the back door instead of facing them. I validated ..
Specifically, how did you validate?
I said I heard her that she didn’t like that they were there and felt uncomfortable and I stated that our daughter enthusiastically hoped they would be able to show up. This is a very important family to our D (I’m telling you all this sentient I didn’t say it to W she already knows)
