The gift card was a mistake. It was a very well made Amazon card, with my name on it, looking like a gift card envelope from her.. Marketing. It wasnt real.. So, no gift card. And , yes she is being nice, as she is a non confrontational person that likes to make everyone happy. The dinner was set up by her to celebrate my B Day with the girls, and grands, and former FIL. FIL I see at subvet and fleet reserve meetings. He is mr neutral, just likes to shoot the breeze and drink beer.. Good person. Time spent with my youngest was great. She too me to a TAPAS bar downtown. Ate some good finger foods, and had a couple drinks.. Oldest daughter brought me a B Day gift one of the grands selected for me. Lava lamp and miniature pinata'. They just left a few minutes ago.. Feeling better now. Dinner is Thursday.
The dinner was set up by her to celebrate my B Day with the girls, and grands, and former FIL.
It sounds "nice" of her to think of your birthday and plan something with your daughters and grandkids, but if that sort of event with ExW and ExFIL isn't serving you well it's also ok to set a boundary and let her know. I remember you previously having mixed feelings about shared Holidays going forward...especially if/when ExW starts dating someone. Just know it's alright to say that doesn't work for you moving forward.
Originally Posted by Mach40
Time spent with my youngest was great. She too me to a TAPAS bar downtown. Ate some good finger foods, and had a couple drinks.. Oldest daughter brought me a B Day gift one of the grands selected for me. Lava lamp and miniature pinata'. They just left a few minutes ago..
Awesome! Glad you had fun with your daughters and grandkids :-)
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
Yo Mach this is while it was advised awhile back being buddies was not a good idea. Every LBS should make their expectations clear on what D will look like moving forward. In your ex's defense she doesn't see an issue with you being friends.
I had a long thread about being separated etc. After quite sometime, the divorce will be officially signed and whatever a county/state does this Monday. Court system had it back in June.. Anyways, time to move forward. My gut is turning and burning right now. I will be single and have to deal with her dating, and family. My girls are 22/32 and I have grand kids, youngest being 5. My daughters are well adjusted, and comfortable with whatever is going to happen going forward. They only require one B Day to be attended with EX, and thats with the 5 year old.. Working that one out. All other holidays will be separate.. Reconciliation was once in someones head, but never brought forward. She said if I had done one thing years ago, we would not be divorced. Again, communication. Now, what do I do to move forward, with all the experience and advice here? I travel allot around the world, so I am not really able to establish a at home routine with trying to date etc. I will be trying though. LD type dating is not easy. Health wise, I am slowly building back up my body. I had heart surgery a couple years ago, and tore Patella and MCL in leg.. So, I am a little heavy, 220 at 5'10. Online dating is an option. But, Church, Bars, social events. Whats advisable? I will get a life, that is my goal.. https://www.divorcebusting.com/foru...ain=63363&Number=2938008#Post2938008
Hey, I think if someone were to date me, traveling would be great. Hotel and food is always paid for, any takers, lol. I have been mostly doing the hermit monk thing when home. Its not intentional. When I get back, grand kids are taking up most of my time. Not complaining, its just I am their surrogate Dad due to their Dad being , well, I cant say mean things. I have no idea what sites to go to for OLD.
