Suzy, I am very confused. Am I reading this right, is this your present C talking or one of your old C's? If it is your new C how can she even think about saying something like this...
Quote: she starts in about how just becasue we get along so well, she said that maybe just becasue we still love eachother doesn't mean we should get back together, that two people just don't work together well when it comes to the marriage union and starts giving the ex dating tips and on how to go about dating the tenant!!! that she should move to another apt. and then she won't be his tenant anymore!
IMO if this is your present C dump her, I agree with nitaf find a christian based C. You have been through so much and it angers me to hear someone is giving you advise like this. Sounds very bias to me and get out before all of your Db'ing efforts are destroyed. Sorry, just very passionate about this.
A Small wedding huh? well this is a good sign.
Take care of you and keep us updated.
Halo
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.
well, when we were married, we did go to a priest who counseled us for one session--he had no clue about married life. I want to give this c a chance, seeing a though we never gave the other two a chance. ex has his meeting next wed. so we will see. but this past sunday, i called up wx and asked him to take down my bike and d's that we were going for a bike ride, (he keeps the bikes for me in his garage) and he asked where we were riding hen said great come on over, nexst thing I know we are all heading for the bike trail. we all went biking together, then he asked me if I like chicken duh, of course he knows I like chicken and I said yes and asked me to stay for supper and we all made dinner then after dinner, I helped clean up and he was having trouble with this computer, I helped him then d had to take a shower so then I left to go back to my apt--weird, my head is so messed up right now. then yesterday, ex was late coming home told d and me that he had to visit the tenant because of a bee situation. and d gave him a look and I told her that Kristen(tenant) is highly allergic. we started talking, then out of the blue ex tells me how much rachael acts like our d now rachael is the tenants daughter. I was upset when he started talking about her daughter but I didn't let it show--why is he doing this???
hi sage, i used to be anitasues "its starting to happen and i'm scared. I have a list of goals, but I kinda wanted to bring it up with the c present that way we would have someone there to step in if we start agruing or get off track. I don't know who to bring it up and now it seems that he is confused or scared or both.
sorry, this is from the new counselor. he has a session alone with her on wed. and I called the insurance and got 10 more sessions approved. I told ex this I told him I got sessions for him in case he needed to go more on his own. He didn't really say anything,
tonight I had to drop off my daughter at her grandparents house tonight and boy that was hard. her uncle was in town from chicago when I entered the house it was like I had a disease, everyone just looked at me and stopped talking. for the first time, I felt like I didn't belong in the family anymore. my ex's mother had a good talk with me though.
well nitaf, he is off the fence and he went back inside the house!! He had his individual session last wednesday. Our d was at a sleep over on friday, perfect time for us to be alone. in the 13 yrs married we have never had this opportunity before. I called and left a message about our d dance recital tickets and he called me back and we made small talk. He said that he was going for a bike ride and I asked if I could stop by and show him a birthstone ring I had brought our d for her b-day and he said sure. We I went over there, I didn't have too but I figured it would be good to be alone and talk. He came out and greeted me at the door outside and he talked in the driveway. I was freezing, it was really cold out. we made small talk then I told him i needed to go get something to eat, he stated that he didn't eat and that he was going inside to make eggs and said goodbye. If d was there, he would have invited me in for eggs,. so i left disappointed. then this past sunday, d was sick in bed when I came over, when d was in the bathroom I asked ex how did the session go because I had a prescheduled appt for this wed (6-2) he stated that everything was fine and that he just told me that he loved me because the counselor said that it was because the dog had died )previous thread) and that he just didn't want to see me upset. and that the counselor and him have decided to cancel the wed appt! I was so mad, I wasn't even included in this decision. ex said that if I have any questions, the counselor told him to tell me to call her and she would be happy to meet with me. I called and left a message on her machine and she has not returned my call. our d asked if we were going to try and work things out and I told her no, things are just going to stay the way they are. Next thing I know its almost dinner time and ex asks me if I want a burger and then we all have supper together. I know that being friendly with the ex is good for the child's sake, but I feel that he does more but now I am just going to lay low I guess. Our d is going to maryland for a dance competitn and ex just informed me that after the competition, we are going to DC--are these actions of someone who still would like to get back with their ex wife or what, he is really messing my head up. any advice would be greatly welcomed!
