Newbie12, many moments call for slow play. This is not one. I'm serious--what day do you get the kids back for your 50%? Taking the kids isn't something to let go for a day, a week, a month.
"I get you're frustrated and miss our home. What day do you propose returning the kids for my 50% custody?"
You can't be that great Dad you want to be if she's taken your kids away.
(Note, no arguing in the text above. An unsatisfactory or no response goes to the attorney.)
This is stellar advise.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I just got a message saying how this isn’t fair and the kids should be on their house and that she can’t bring them back because of how stubborn I am being.
I am assuming you are not a threat. This statement is part of your evidence that she is the one trying to manipulate you and everyone else.
It is critical for you to keep good records of every interaction. Keep your records organized. I had a daytimer that I could write in with details.
One of your best tools is to agree with her:
W:"This isn't fair and the kids should be in their house. I can't bring them there because of how stubborn you are being." H:"You are right. I believe it is best if we exchange the children in public. The police station or McDonalds parking lot works for me. Let me know which location works for you. If neither of these work for you, give me a couple places that do work for you. Regards, H"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
You may want to record all interactions with her with your phone. A former poster here used that tactic to great effect when he had his WW running around telling people that he abused her.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
