Quote: A long time ago on this board I made a point about the fact that the participation of activities like this would be indicative of an extremely healthy relationship where boundaries, self-control, trust, and respect are in good working order. Others chimed in with the fact that not all swinging couples are as "healthy" as I implied. Is this activity the act of "gambling with your marriage?" or some sort of test of individual nerve? Or is it just mindless physical play by folks who don't really think that deep about it?
AtlDave, I think that couple that swing have serious emotional issues or they wouldn't have the need to be involved in that activity.
At the heart of any good R is serious commitment. To me commitment means to be connected to ONE person in all areas. To my way of thinking, swinging does not fit that bill! It is dangerous and is playing with fire!
You have no idea how right on you are. There is no pain in the world that can equal the pain I feel knowing my wife transferred her love from me to another man we met in swinging. We have two children, and the older one is 14 and KNOWS her mom fell in love with another man - and my wife claims she was never fully committed to me anyway, in the whole nearly 15 years we've been married.
I think swinging shakes the entire foundation of the concept of commitment and IS a drug. Now I am dealing with the threat of imminent divorce and a host of emotional issues that would never have been as acute had we not made the choice to swing.
It isn't worth the risk, everyone...it just isn't worth the risk. If you are unattached, please...go for it, find out what it feels like if you must...but once you are committed, get real about that commitment and don't swing.
