I can tell that you are uncomfortable opening up. If you truly want to experience change, you will need to become comfortable feeling uncomfortable. Many times we fear change because of the unknown, however there is power in vulnerability.
How motivated are you to become the best you, you can be? This will require overcoming obstacles that might look impossible. Believe, trust the process and use fear as motivation.....not an obstacle.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
So after a peaceful few days WW decides to go mental and tells me (we have a live in separation) that she wants to meet a guy who has kids but doesn't want more kids. We have two children.
She has completely changed - I do feel like the woman I'm married too is not the woman I married.
I can tell that you are uncomfortable opening up. If you truly want to experience change, you will need to become comfortable feeling uncomfortable. Many times we fear change because of the unknown, however there is power in vulnerability.
How motivated are you to become the best you, you can be? This will require overcoming obstacles that might look impossible. Believe, trust the process and use fear as motivation.....not an obstacle.
LITB, I am very motivated to become the best I can be. For too long I've been complacent and not making serious changes in my life.
So after a peaceful few days WW decides to go mental and tells me (we have a live in separation) that she wants to meet a guy who has kids but doesn't want more kids. We have two children.
She has completely changed - I do feel like the woman I'm married too is not the woman I married.
Is this normal for a WW?
Hi D,
Yes sir, it is normal for a WW to say some crazy things. She isn't the woman you married, at the moment. Let her be.
In the meantime, what have you been up to? How's your GAL activity going? Do you have a list of new things you might do in the upcoming New Year?
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Yes, I have a lot of goals. I want to go to the gym. It's been years since I've done any sort of workout. I want to travel more. I made a new friend recently who's making his own music. I want to finish a book I've been writing. Most important I want to read the book suggestions on this forum.
Those are solid plans. Nothing to it, but to do it.
Wishing you a Happy & Healthy 2020!!
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
So in doing the 180 I told WW that if she is golng to start dating again then I would no longer invite her on trips out with my kids. I told her it's disrespectful of her to play happy families and keep company with me when she doesn't want me in her life anymore. She didn't like it and told me don't you think the girls would want their mom with them. I stood my ground and told her she can't be seeing other men and hanging out with me and my kids. That goes for vacations too.
I'm starting to let go and worry less about what she is doing and focus more on myself.
We had relatives stay with us for a while and it wasn't an option for me as she dropped the bomb then. I didn't want to create a huge scene. This is before I discovered the DB forum.
We had relatives stay with us for a while and it wasn't an option for me as she dropped the bomb then. I didn't want to create a huge scene. This is before I discovered the DB forum.
Are you willing to take it back? Since she is cheating on you I would not only suggest going back to the MBR but letting her know she is no longer welcome in it until she proves she is not sleeping with OM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
