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Ok. Thank you.


LH isn’t that the whole deal with divorce busting. You let the person go. If they are involved with OM you don’t ask or say anything about it. And if she comes back she comes back and if she doesn’t she doesn’t. Right? Isn’t DBing about yourself and making yourself as attractive as possible. Making yourself mentally ok. With a new much more mature look on life? About your own health and well being. And after alllllll that. If it works great. If not great

Right? Am I missing something here?

Sorry AS. just saw your reply

We basically just talked about what went wrong in our M. She told me she has “moved on” from me. I told her I want you to be happy so I won’t hold you back. We then talked about S and how we would handle him moving forward. And then a bunch of emotional stuff

The only difference I can think of in before/after is she knows I’m not going to fight her leaving. She still knows I want to work on it. But she knows I’m not going to fight her or try to hold on

The outcome will either be recon or permanent separation. I’m not going on in limbo. As of right now I don’t think there is limbo. She wants out and so in a few months we will be living separately

Oz,

Your partially correct. You are forgetting about the part of protecting yourself. I hate to say this but not long after you separate an OM is going to show up and like Ginger says you sure enough are not going to want to be supported her and him.

Also not sure where you’re getting if there is om you don’t do or say anything.

I think you’re trying to put together bits and pieces to fit what you want to do.

I think you need to start being honest with yourself.

My understanding is there are 3 levels of autism.

Oz, what level have you been diagnosed?

What level has your son been diagnosed?

I’m going to hire a lawyer to get everything set I’m stone

Sandies rules 16 and 19 I kinda get the impression of not trying to dig about OM. also I was told multiple times if I don’t have proof then say nothing. Well I don’t have proof and I don’t believe there is OM anyway. She struggles to take care of herself. She is so depressed she just wants to sit at home after work and do nothing. There is no OM

I’ve said it before. I HAD to verbally tell her I let you go. All that stuff you guys said months ago about opening the cage door and dropping the rope. I’ve been doing that. She just hasn’t seen it. I had to TELL her

Oz,

You have a new job ==> more income.
More income ==> Get yourself into IC.


Yes. That is one option out of many. It is not the best, and it is not the worst option.

hijacking for my sitch... what are other better options, if WW is already physically separated (not legally)?

RTC. no disrespect brother. That’s like saying there are 3 levels of color. Or three levels of tall.

Think of it like a speedometer. Divided into half mph marks. And the speedometer goes from 0 to 200. I’m like a 15 or a 20. You wouldn’t notice unless I told you. But my brain works differently

My son would be 120.

RTC. IC is offered by my job for free!! I’m signing up stat.

Thanks man!

Because you are going to separate and do it legally, there is no need to have proof of OM.