My issue with this though, is that the A is still going on. Many times over, I hear that theres virtually no way to R if the A is still happening. What do I do about this?
This is where boundaries come into play. As long W is in contact with OW, you set and enforce boundaries to protect.
Example: You set a boundary by taking over the MBR. She did not respect it. You let her cross it. You did not enforce. That is where the lock comes into play. You make the boundary harder for her to cross.
Example: Do you pay the cell phone bill. Cancel hers. She can pay for her own.
Read the boundary thread many times. The strong boundaries are your actions when they are crossed.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
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