Idk if i’m doing it right though, or if it’ll make things better where she respects and gains attraction towards me again, whenever i stand up and say no and not give her what she wants she verbally attacks me and makes it hard to stand my ground, i feel like if i keep standing she’ll be done. I know it isn’t just about gaining your WW back, that it’s about making yourself a better and more desirable man. But i still want to gain her back from this
So i’m going to reread divorce remedy, and read the following:no more mr nice guy, the five love languages, 40 love dares challenge, the way of the superior man, the rationale male series. I will also watch certain youtube videos that i feel are trying to teach the same message (jason capital and coach corey wayne) As well as reading the original attachments (such as sandi’s rules and GAL) does divorce remedy and divorce busting have the same basic content or is there anything specific and special i can learn from one and not the other?
Just now realizing how horrible 2019 has been, i’ve had all these problems with my marriage before the year even started and it’s only gotten worse. I had a car crash in february that almost killed me and totaled my car, couldn’t go back to work for several months and lost a great job making a lot of money due to me not being able to return within a certain time frame, getting put at fault for the accident by the insurance companies, i had to get a lawyer involved because it wasn’t my fault in any way. And now to top it off my marriage, the one thing i would want to save out of everything, looks like it’s gone and done for. The scary part to me is that it isn’t even august yet, there’s still almost half a year left for things to get even worse if at all possible...i’m not meaning to be a downer, just realized a few moments ago what all happened this year and how they’ve all been horrible
Thank you, just had to vent for a little bit. Tonight my wife went out and i acted like i didn’t care, said she looks good and have fun and that’s it. She texted me asking if i could meet at her moms to pick her up and i said yeah i can probably be there by then, i said probably to give her the sense that i wasn’t sitting around twiddling my thumbs waiting on her, i got her something to eat before all this for when she got home just to continue acts of kindness, but didn’t present it like i hadn’t been doing anything so she can wonder about me a little. On the drive home she said i guess i’ll put the air mattress in the makeup room and sleep in there then, i didn’t respond because i knew that was a trap, she was trying to get me to argue or break down, so i get the bed and i acted like i’m not gonna argue with her or let her lure me in, made her think i was doing my own thing while still showing i care.. did i play this out right? When i said i can probably be there she texted back “ok probably?”
She got one of my friends numbers to talk to him about how i’ve been acting, my friend told me, my wife also posted a memory on facebook a trip we took last year and tagged me in it
