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She also said i was acting like a d*ck and a douchebag and a b*tch because i told her no and stuff

Who cares what she says? Actions man. She cant make you do anything. You told her no, thats the end of that conversation.

You meed to go dark man. Protect yourself. My EXWW was just like yours. All threats and words. I literally ignored her up until tue very end because all she spewed was hate and disgust. Blamed me for her cheating. I dropped her like a bad habit.

Nobody deserves to be emotionally abused.

She said it is my fault that the utility bill is so high, and that her depression and anxiety and spening time out is brcause of me too

So what do i do if i want to keep her, i know i may sound crazy with what all she said but i admit i played my part in pushing things here. She apparently thinks i can’t control her but she can control me

You can't control her. If you want to keep her, pull back and focus on you. I know it's hard - I'm still learning to do that in my situation. But letting go and focusing on being a better you is the best thing you can do right now if you want to get her back. Even then, it may not change her mind. But you'll be better.

I read today that in these situations you just have to consider the relationship over and move on like you would otherwise. It doesn't mean you can't listen and validate her feelings when she chooses to talk. But you have to move forward without her and focus on you.

Jb. You need to understand that you dont get to decide to keep her or not. She already decided your R is over. So accept that. Your R is over. Focus on yourself. Stop trying to manipulate the situation to get a response from her. Stop trying to control the outcome. You cannot control the outcome.

All you can do is focus on bettering yourself. Thats it. You need to 100% focus solely on making yourself a better person physically and mentally. You control you and she controls herself. There is literally nothing you can do to change her mind.

You can better yourself and have hope that she sees this and decides to come back to you. But that cant be your drive. Your drive is to do everything you can to make yourself a better man and all of the decisions you make moving forward should only have that goal in mind. Make decisions that make you happy.

Stop worrying about what she thinks and what she does.

I went to in the bed and she took her pillows and a cover and is laying on the couch, didn’t even say anything about her wanting the bed and the room. She did change her facebook status to single, which hurts. I do understand i can’t control her, but i do want there to be a good chance things will work if i change what i control

Jb2019, I think you did the right thing. She may be annoyed, but I can't imagine the narrative, "I kicked him out of the bedroom. He sleeps in the makeup room now." would help you win her respect back.

I was expecting her to come to bed with me or say something about me sleeping elsewhere whenever she decided to lay down, but she went with just laying on the couch. Idk how things will go from here.. She said its my fault she was late for work because she’s depressed

If the papers come in do i sign them? And how long can i expect her to sleep elsewhere? And will she just continue sleeping with me when she sees that i’m not moving