Wanted, glad to hear you are doing well! I don't think you did anything wrong blocking OM from talking to the kids, like you said it is your time with them and your XW should respect that boundary since you are giving up some of your time to allow her to talk to them.
As for whether their R will last or not, most of the time it doesn't when it starts out as an affair because the R is established on a foundation of lies to begin with, it's like building a mansion on sand, it might stand a while but sooner or later it will topple. Also you have to consider that if your W did this once her chances of doing it again go up. As soon as their R takes a difficult turn she'll start looking for an escape. There are exceptions to every rule so no one can say for sure. If it does fizzle it will probably happen in the next year or so I would think. The first year is pretty easy because it's all sunshine and rainbows. Once they move in together and have to start paying bills and dealing with each other's quirks then it becomes real.
Question for the vets here.....is this R between them seriously viable? I was hoping it would fizzle out by now. It hasn’t and I’m beginning to wonder if this jackoff is going to be a part of my life and my kids’ lives for the long haul.
Nobody knows. When you get to the point that you don't care things will be better.. But I wouldn't let them know it bothers you because that may empower them. If people or your kids don't get it just tell them why you don't like the guy and have no reason to speak to him.
Good update!
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
