Well I didn’t mean to come off empty. We had fun, watched a little tv, chatted, held hands, touched each other before hand in a romantic none sexual way but it is still very new and with that comes the sex part as you alluded to when describing your summer. I do like her, enjoy her company but she hasn’t come across as miss snuggle bunny either. In fact she says she thinks more like a man. If she wanted to have some snuggle time and lay her head on me I certainly would have partaked. She wants to see me again on Friday.
Joseph...I am glad it wasn’t empty...lol. Neither was my summer. Gosh...we had so much fun back then. So hard to come to terms with the idea that something that started out in such an amazing way has ended in the way that it has. Still...happy to have the memories. Hope you are making some too.
Lol - tv, sex, a glass of wine and home in one hour? Now THAT'S a quickie!
Lol ya know i did not want to say anything but I was thinking the same. Lol.
As for the feelngs Joseph I've had the same - and I often hate it. It's like out of my control. I don't know if it's something biological or broken in me or what but during the pursuit I'm very engaged and interested but often when she's says okay you got me I'm yours (of corse not in those words but you get the point) I sometimes lose interest. Is that why I stayed engaged with wild girl? I don't doubt it - at least have to consider it. I've had others years ago the same where if she backed off or even found another guy, bang I'm totally interested again and even regret losing her. Yet when I had her I didn't feel it.
Now this is not an all the time everytime thing mind you. But it does happen so just know you're not alone. I also find that an understanding partner who is willing to go slow is very helpful. Sadly many don't understand - especially early on.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
We didn’t watch the show for an hour.....lol. I came in, went to her bedroom, she locked the door, had wine ready to go so we sat there for 15 min or so, chatted, touched, drank wine before we started in. It was fun, I enjoyed it, we laughed, etc. Hell maybe it is the chase and now some of the fun is gone. Maybe I am still doing some healing from my D which prevents me from fully engaging. I know I am not thinking about my x when I am with her. This is also the longest girl I have dates since my D so maybe some of these feelings are normal. I do think I have what DH described as post orgasm depression.
I like snuggle time and we did lay there for a bit it just wasn’t this long drawn out session of pillow talk. When she said it’s almost time for you to go since it was a little after 9 I didn’t know if she really wanted me to stay or if she was being serious. And she was the one that brought it up not me so I took that as my que to get up and get dressed because I did go to the gym this morning.
She will be getting flowers today and I guess if anything maybe I am sorting through what I really want since now I am faced with N opportunity for it.
Just got a text from the dr wishing me a happy v day. I didnt tell her she was getting flowers. When she reached out i got excited.....I am all over the place!
My guess is your afraid to get close because you might get hurt. Nothing else makes sense. You are living the LBS dream right now. Your at a place every LBS thinks about daily after their D. You are dating a beautiful doctor who is totally into you!
Just remember you survived your D when you thought you wouldn't. If this doesn't workout long-term life will go on.
