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Great party last night, incredible people. I was asked several times how old are you? I say 50 and people are saying are you serious... it feels good getting in shape. Having my hair makes a difference too!

Ran 18 miles this week and not sure if I will run tomorrow bc I am going to another party tonight. Funny how when you start to live the invites just keep coming.

I was asked to start a dart team at the social club, I would need some time to set it up but I am going to try and make it happen.

Please if anyone is reading my posts... Go out tonight and have some fun with friends. Plan on working out tomorrow, wear cologne...yes it works! Listen to the advice here it works. Stop asking whats the percentage of saved marraiges. Really, that's what you want to know...? The success stories dont come back and post so stop and think.

Hi BH! Glad to read what you posted. Lots of GAL! Great man!

Merry Christmas for you and your family! Keep the updates coming!

(((Hugs)))

Thank you Neffer.

Merry Christmas to you and yours.

Journaling:

Living life to the fullest, that means GAL, working out, and living with a clear mind. No more fog for me I see very clear now. I have been reading everyday and learning, I see sitches that all have the same theme... well its time to make some changes. I had a great break over the holidays and now its back to hard work.

Children are all pretty well accepting of whats going on, meaning they dont ask any questions anymore. I know they want to know whats going on but I just dont have answers for them. I am waiting for a court date as this is required for me to be D'ed. W has slowed down the entire process as we could have been D'ed over a year ago.

I received a text from one of my W's sisters wishing me a happy birthday, I just resonded with thank you. I have no desire to speak with her. She is a WW spouse about 5X over. H took her back every time.

I really want to get this house sold as I have a place to live set up. Looking forward to cutting back on work and increasing GAL. The social club was one of the best moves I made as I have made so many new friends. Great times ahead.

2019 will be a great year!!

Great update bhappy! You are living your best life and that is the way forward!

Stay strong!

So I do have a question... Should I unfriend all of my W's relatives on social media? My W unfriended my parents early on but stayed friends with several of my family and is still friends with one of my best friends. So she sees all the parties and activities we are doing.

I just want to cut all ties to her and her family, I completely blocked her from social media and phone...

I want t write up what a despicable family she comes from but it would be a novel.

BH,

Sounds like you have some bitterness in you I thought things were going really well?????????

BH I did not unfriend my XW or any of her relatives. She is not active on SM since our D so there was no reason to. The only reason why I would have would of been if she was posting pictures of her and her BF and I was not mentally able to take it.

BH, I'm the same as Joseph in this regard, I never unfriended XW or any of her relatives after BD and in fact am still "friends" with them all these years later. None of them are very active on FB though. I just found out a few days ago (via a big fight) that my GF has been harboring a lot of resentment because every once in a while XW will post something (like pictures of her and our kids on vacation) and I will "like" or comment on it, but that's another story (rolls eyes).

I think unfriending everyone out the blue might come off as angry and vindictive, but at the end of the day it's all about doing what YOU need for YOU. So if it's hurting you to see them post stuff, or if they are posting nasty stuff about you that rubs you the wrong way, then go ahead and unfriend them.

Not bitter at all, several of her family member are all cheaters, multiple times. I should have seen this coming.

Side note: I really am happy she wants a D, I never realized that there is life out there after all. I was living a lie... all I did was work and pay bills lost contact with my friends and family. This is a blessing.