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Did, please read AS's response carefully.....and pay close attention. There is one thing that your post screams: control.

After all of this time I find it strange that you still think you can control her. And you accuse her of manipulation yet your post about how you'd like to proceed is full of control and manipulation.

I used to think that your voluntary support was due to NGS. Now I am thinking it is more a way to continue to try to exert control.

You have to let go. And come to terms with the fact that you can control only one person in this life: yourself.

Yea that list was terrible. I knew it as soon as I took a minute to think. What is Retrouvaille? Thanks for the 2x4... I'll burn it.

I will let go. I will be thoughtful and more positive in our conversation today. Wish me luck.

AS master surgeon disection of the post is a non plus ultra in the history of the forum. A nuclear headshot, ufffff.


Stay strong Did, relax, detach and keep DBing. PMA, what you wrote!

Did,

don't worry about making mistakes. You coach sports and played sports. Mistakes are how we learn. The fact that you are trying and you care means that you have the ability. Your heart is in the right place, but it's never easy to figure out what to do in these situations where our emotions are all over the place. BTW, I'm in suburban STL I meant to tell you that earlier. I've been out to the East Coast a few times to DC and once to Maryland. I didn't think I had an accent until I went to DC.

And remember it´s always easier to help others than ourselves.



Failure is often the best teacher.

Stand strong there man!

The key though is that YOU DO learn from your mistakes. Did, the problem I see is that you haven't learned from your mistakes, and continue to make the same ones over and over again. This is an opportunity for self-reflection and awareness. Why haven't you learn from your previous missteps, and how can you fix it so you do from this point forward?

Loves is gonna come back and give you a spankin' Did! You better shape up buddy! Lol!

Did, just relax, work on yourself. You definitely are one of my favorite posters here.

Steve's gonna call me immature, but hopefully he doesn't cross the line and call me a millenial!

he is one of my favorite posters too. But he can be a bit stubborn! LOL

And I think you are very mature ovr........for a millennial.

Looks like divorce. She said she can’t try feels crazy. Wants to but can’t loves me wishes it was different. But has wall up and switch flipped again similar to when she left the first time

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Tomorrow she'll say something else.

BELIEVE NOTHING SHE SAYS!