My GAL planning seems to have gotten a shot in the arm thanks to the Whisper app. I know so many things can go wrong using that app and I know that caution will need to be exercised. That being said, I am happy that I seem to be communicating more confidently - something that I have not been able to do without sounding like a NG.
Other than that, nothing new to report. Not looking forward to tomorrow with spending time with W and her friends. I get the feeling that I'll get another form of BD. Looking forward to the trip on Friday though.
Also saw the time AS posted in burned's thread. Very valuable. I copied and pasted that into a word document for easier access.
What is the whisper ap and why has it increased your GAL?
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
What is the whisper ap and why has it increased your GAL?
It's an anonymous messaging app that allows the user to see anonymous messages from others around you. You can respond publicly (anonymously of course) or message directly. It's primary use is for hooking up, but I was able to muster some good conversations with some women around me. Nothing sexual, just...cordial chatting. I'm hoping it can expand to meeting and hanging out. We'll see. It's helping me GAL because I am talking to people who are not associated with W. So I do not have to censor myself as much.
Have you tried meetups or clubs associated to activities you like to do?
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
Have you tried meetups or clubs associated to activities you like to do?
I'm starting to. I tried to go to a meditation session yesterday but due to the holiday there were no sessions. There is a singles get together that I may be going to next Saturday. I am hoping to have my wardrobe ready by then.
December looks to be a pretty good month for increasing my GALness, thanks to Meetup, Google, and Whisper.
Nothing major to report. GAL with D, got a call later from W telling me she tripped and hurt her ankle. Went and got ankle tape and heating pad. I drove home and gave the bag to her. Read D4 a story and chatted to someone on Whisper. She is a 25 year old expecting mother who is in the infancy of a new R. So we talked about that and my sitch. Felt good. Felt like I have hope of a future R with someone and it will not take me as long to get it.
Today, we were getting ready to go to W's friend's house for brunch. She had on OM's work shirt, which bothered me. But it did not wreck me. Drove in together, chatted about D4. Had brunch, drove back, and now D4 and I are at home making dinner and getting ready for our trip tomorrow.
I'm starting to branch out and find GAL activities. December looks to be pretty busy.
Dude I just hate that you're being there for her, like when you helped her when she got hurt. She hasn't experienced the same loss you have. Someone correct me if I'm wrong but that seems like you're feeding her cake.
Do her friends know about everything she is doing? If so how do they look at you?
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
Dude I just hate that you're being there for her, like when you helped her when she got hurt. She hasn't experienced the same loss you have. Someone correct me if I'm wrong but that seems like you're feeding her cake.
Do her friends know about everything she is doing? If so how do they look at you?
I can understand your viewpoint, but W was physically hurt and D4 was with me. It could be her cake eating but all I did was get the stuff for her ankle. I did not touch her at all.
Her friends...I don’t know. I assume they do. I think they all pity me and feel my pain. Her best friend (the DWI person) knows more about the details, I’m sure. I stopped talking to her completely and she seems to have gotten the hint. She does not engage with me on social media anymore. I think there was one time where W brought up the fact that her friend was “concerned and worried” about me.
On the road with D4. We had a nice evening in a town noted for its Bavarian theme. Lots of lights, lots of shopping, lots of whining from D4 but overall it was a good night. We're going to do more today then head home.
W called late last night. I immediately gave the phone to D4 and they talked about the day's events. D4 said W wanted to talk to me. She attempted to end the convo multiple times then kept talking...I was ready to end it multiple times. So a little strange. Temp checking to see if I can keep her on the line?
Quiet evening otherwise. 6 days since my last emotional breakdown. Can I make it 7?
