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Yes I have not responded to her texts. She has sent further ones today. I did reply to one only and that was one to say I don't need to pick my daughter up from school now, it was agreed previously that I would. So I just said OK to acknowledge that one. For all the begging pleading for me not to go back texts I have just ignored them.

I won't be trying to reclaim the MBR, I will live in the spare room and won't enter the MBR as she requested.

Now I have a text to say she will be calling the police if I try to move back in.

I think you should get legal advice, you could probably get a free walk-in initial consultation with a solicitor straight away, to know where you stand and to give you peace of mind.

In some states, moving out constitutes "abandonment", which has significant repercussions in divorce. So you should move back in. I don't know how that goes in the UK, but I think the advice to consult a lawyer, especially in light of her threat to call the police, is pretty good.

Maybe you could respond to one of her texts by saying "This is my home, too. If you can't live with me, maybe you should consider moving out. I don't want this divorce, but I can't stop you. But your decision to divorce has consequences, and moving out may be one of them."

You've received a lot of good advice so far. Remember, "believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see."

Have you seen your children since you've moved out? You need to.

Did you really say it like this? Saying it was "your daughter". Is your W the mother of this child? If so, saying "my daughter" comes across passive aggressive. My dad would always say stuff like this and it makes me cringe.

Well that didn't go as planned. Got to the house at lunch time and couldn't get in as she had left keys in front and back door, I presume but maybe she changed the locks.

Anyway, I called the police but they said it's a civil matter and to talk to my solicitor. Also she already was one step ahead and called them to say she was scared to let me in. Solicitor was useless and said you have rights but you may need to get a court order and they are expensive and not guaranteed. So giving that a miss.

So, next step I will go back tomorrow when she is at work as this is a matter of principle now. I will also pull the same stunt as her about being scared.

Also today found she blocked my calls to my son's phone and also keeps my daughters phone switched off permanently. Find this totally disgusting behaviour and she is also slagging me off to them continually.


Good thing about today I finally woke up and realised she is evil and I want out of this marriage ASAP.

Slow down. You do not want to get arrested. Do not claim you are scared.

Stay away from the house. Do not escalate.

Who owns the house? You? Her? Joint? Renting? IF Renting, who is paying the rent? Who name is on the paperwork?

Are you paying rent some-place else?

You need real legal advise. Get a free consult set-up tomorrow.

Please clarify this so we understand exactly how she took it out on you...Verbaly/physically?


This is why she is scared of you. Hopefully you learned from this.

House is jointly owned. Why would I get arrested?