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Re: Reaching for Trust #281552 04/27/04 12:30 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	Hey Deb, I get beat once in a while. Love your title and your attitude!!! Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Reaching for Trust #281553 04/27/04 12:31 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	Hey PIB, Thank you for my hugs for the day. Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Reaching for Trust #281554 04/27/04 12:41 PM
Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 4,885 sage Member
sage Member Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 4,885	Quote: Are you always #1? She sure is! Sage Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.

Re: Reaching for Trust #281555 04/27/04 12:47 PM
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sage Member Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 4,885	Quote: Yesterday was stressful and a bit interesting. Hmmmm...to say the least! Quote: Left him vm this morning, saying good morning hope he is feeling better and could he let me know by 3:30 today so I could give my A a call before she closes. I LOVE how direct and to the point you are being here! Letting him know what you need and by when! Quote: I guess when he seems to enjoy talking with me when he does and picking on me, and if he isn't serious about J I don't totally understand why he won't give this a try. My thought on that is he feels he did and I didn't work at it. What if you DIDN'T put a spin on it, Pam? what if you didn't make ASSumptions about how CHL feels, ok? How do YOU feel? Are you using your ASSumptions about him in lieu of addressing your own feelings? Sage Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.

Re: Reaching for Trust #281556 04/27/04 01:15 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	Maybe, I am trying not to beat myself up over not getting it sooner and working harder on the R sooner. I think I had to get to a place mentally to where I was capable of the changes and control that this requires. Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Reaching for Trust #281557 04/27/04 01:22 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	I could use some input from logical dbers! My A called and she said she wonders if CHL will have trouble under oath testifying that the marriage is irretrievably broken. I don't know if he will or not. Then she is going to ask me that and she said that is when I can say the things he has done to work on the R or that look like he doesn't believe that the M is irretrivably broken. So what do I say tomorrow??? I wonder what sort of questions his A will ask me? Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Reaching for Trust #281558 04/27/04 01:40 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	She says the judge will probably grant him the D, but there have been cases where they didn't. Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Reaching for Trust #281559 04/27/04 01:53 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	NOW, I am really stressed!!!!! I didn't know it was like a question and answer deal with the A's and judge tomorrow. Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Reaching for Trust #281560 04/27/04 01:57 PM
Joined: Oct 2002 Posts: 2,453 Southeast Phoenix_In_Bloom Member
Phoenix_In_Bloom Member Joined: Oct 2002 Posts: 2,453 Southeast	Pam, Wow. I didn't know that you had to have a question/answer with attorneys and judges. I can't answer your questions...but hopefully someone who has been through it will be able to give you some advice. In any case, didn't want you to feel ignored. Hugs! PIB

Re: Reaching for Trust #281561 04/27/04 02:04 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	Thank you PIB, I wondered if I should print out some of our work on the joint thread to show he was working on communication and understanding each other? Plus some info on Michelle and the web site? Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

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