You should come to the court date prepared to provide 'evidence' of working on the m. You may or may not get an opportunity to give the judge your side. By all means, copy the stuff from the website for the judge to read, also any dates you attend counseling separately and with CHL, any thing that looks like working on the m.
When I went, the judge asked us both if we wanted to reconcile because I had filed the motion for continuance. My h replied no and I said yes. The judge appeared to want to grant the continuance so she asked my h how long he would give the continuance...h said 45 days. So you are right, the judge could go either way.
Has your A told you what type of judge it is? What is the judges normal rulings on d cases? In my case the judge was female, pro-family but her rulings in d cases were 50/50 so it was a toss up as to what she'd rule on ours.
I guess it helped to have some prayer warriors attend the court appearance with me!
My A isn't familiar with this judge so no idea from that at all.
I am still hoping we don't go to court but CHL had to take care of his sister, his sisters bf, and his parents dogs all tonight so he may not make it over tonight.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Hugs and Prayers for you kiddo! I will be thinking about you tomorrow.
My advice is to take any documentation that you can and be prepared to briefly discuss the efforts made by both of you. Keep it concise as they won't want alot of details. Answer the questions honestly and you will do fine.
Try to keep your emotions in check. (Easier said than done, I know) And know that you have many BB angels in the room with you. We will be the ones lifting your spirits!
You are a strong person Pam and you can do this!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
He had said the other night he was leaning towards not going to court. But this afternoon he decided to go to court. He called me at 11:30 last night and let me know.
Love you all and thank you all so very, very much for the past year. I would not be where I am now without you guys.
Sad, scared and crying. But not what I would have been a year ago.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
You know I could be beating myself up for not pushing him while he was busy with all the major work projects and sick.
I let the settlement issue wait. I don't consider he is being very nice repaying me this way, but I'm sure he has his reasons. It isn't the way I would handle it if someone had been patient with me. But that is something I have learned not everyone thinks like I do!
I am not sorry I gave him that time. Because that is me. That is the person I want to be, not the one that would have harrassed him while he was stressed to the max with work issues.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Hi Pam - Just noticed you were still up, sorry to hear things are feeling stressed.
Quote: I am not sorry I gave him that time. Because that is me. That is the person I want to be, not the one that would have harrassed him while he was stressed to the max with work issues.
Good for you It is good to be happy with decisions we make. My sincerest best wishes and strength to you to face tomorrow. Slowly.
It is good to be happy with decisions we make. My sincerest best wishes and strength to you to face tomorrow. Slowly. 