I just meant that that particular question is key: "Why would I want to ML to her?"... and the corrollory (sp?): "Why would SHE want to ML to me?" Finding the answers to these questions can uncover a multitude of interesting things... Good luck!
As an indication of our state of fusion, W has been really nice to me over the last couple of days since I told her to "get a grip on reality" after her outburst to me regarding my trying to discuss the plot of her favourite soap opera. I guess she is reacting to my slight differentiation (ie. I have stopped holding back from things that she does not like me doing but that I see no harm in, such as trying to converse while the TV is on and cuddling/kissing her when I feel attracted to her and I have stood up to her when I think she's out of order). The sort of things she has been doing that are out of character are that she has held my hand spontaneously a couple of times and also run her hands around my shoulders as she walked past me when I was sitting at the table. She is going to stay with MIL for a long weekend so Friday will be our last night together for a few days. Hopefully it will be memorable... I was quite pleased with myself for "self soothing" especially as W noticed how much better I handled a particular situation than she did. DD16 was with a friend in the "den" and they were rattling away on MSN Messenger on the computer. W went in and asked her who she was chatting to and DD16 told her to "go away". W does not like being given that sort of cheek and told her off severely in front of her friend. Later W and D16 were talking about something and when I chipped in with some innocuous statement, DD16 told me to “Be quiet, your opinions don’t count”! My blood started to heat up rapidly but just before it began to boil I managed to self soothe and just said something like “Whatever…”. Later W told me she was surprised and pleased that I had not been angry with D16. A good result I’d say. SD
Quote: DD16 told me to “Be quiet, your opinions don’t count”
Teenagers are a real joy, aren't they? My son(15) told me the following today "You are a terrible mother. You do not know how to act like a mother and instead you are just like a big girl."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
MM, How great that your son thinks you're a girl! Most guys never think their Moms were EVER a girl! Besides, what do teenagers (especially boys) know about what a Mother is supposed to do? My guess is that he meant there was something you were making him do for himself.
Mike - assuming he meant "grown up" when he said "big"...if not, please let us know when the funeral services will be held
Quote: My guess is that he meant there was something you were making him do for himself.
Mike - assuming he meant "grown up" when he said "big"..
Good guess! You might find the rest of our conversation amusing.
MM: "I guess when you call me a terrible mom, you're forgetting about the 36 hours of labor and the 12 monthes you survived on nothing but breastmilk and Cheerios"
S15: "Never, ever mention breastmilk in front of me again"
MM: "Never call me a terrible mother again."
D13 (trying to be funny):"Cheerios don't come from breasts."
I readily admit that I am far too immature to be the parent of teenagers. Can 39 year old women runaway from home?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: you survived on nothing but breastmilk and Cheerios _________________________________
That was brilliant! Your mentioning breast milk made him acknowledge that not only are you a girl but you have breasts, too. For a teenage boy to acknowledge his Mom's breasts would be an absolute killer!
You may only be 39, but you've got the wisdom of a 40 year old.
you might wanna rethink using the mom's breastmilk line on teenage boys. I always thought my mom had great breasts... are you sure you're prepared for whatever response might ensue?
Seahog, I may be out of line here, but integrity compels me to speak up. I, for one, find your handle offensive. If you really think that way about your wife, you're not going to get very far no matter what you try, and nobody here will really be able to offer you much help, if any. To think that way about another person is to dehumanize them, which is about the most unhelpful thing when trying to improve a relationship. If you're not trying to improve your relationship, you're in the wrong place.
There... I've said my piece, and I won't say anything more on the subject. Do what you will, or nothing...
