You are not listening to me. Why do you want to go to court when you haven't agreed upon anything? It will be a waste of time and cost you more money.
LH, She will not respond to any messages from my L, her and her L are delaying this whole process. The only way to get them to discuss the D is to get them in a courtroom. (Who cares how much it costs?) I am at the point where I want it done... she gets to save all her money and I have to take care of a house and explain to adult children that their mom is gone. Like I said before its been nearly 16 months... enough already.
She is the plaintiff, she wanted a D, why the delays? I am ok with the whole process. I went to the meeting on Aug. 13th and she couldnt do it. Its like cake eating in its highest form.
You keep talking about its going to cost me a fortune...my life does not revolve around money. My happiness is just as important than anyone elses. I worked so many years providing a great life for my family I believe I need some peace too.
I know you have been through the process and i appreciate your help, but just like I have asked you before, What would you do? I believe you would want to move on with your life.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
Of course her Lawyer is delaying the process that is how he makes his money. Of course you Lawyer is going along with it blaming her lawyer, that is how he makes his money. They love clients like you who can't don't communicate.
If you two can sit down like adults and agree to a fair deal for the both of you it will save you thousands if not tens of thousands and move it along quicker.
Of course her Lawyer is delaying the process that is how he makes his money. Of course you Lawyer is going along with it blaming her lawyer, that is how he makes his money. They love clients like you who can't don't communicate.
If you two can sit down like adults and agree to a fair deal for the both of you it will save you thousands if not tens of thousands and move it along quicker.
You are making a big mistake.
Ok, so no matter how I explain it you just want to think that its the Lawyers, I'm actually copied in on the emails and saw the courier letter mailed over. My Lawyer is a friend of mine, she has nothing to gain as she is working on a flat fee.
There comes a point in time when we need closure... you just continue to think you know whats going on even when I am explaining it fully. Previuoulsy you even stated that my W was delaying to save money, now its the L's are trying to milk us... I get it, but when the other side does not respond I have no choice but to take it to court.
If you want to stop advising me thats fine I understand. This stuff is not easy to understand.
Why would my W want to keep me on her health insurance? Even my L said that she could drop me at this point, even though it would cost her a little in the end.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
Too bad we can't link outside links. I'd love to link to youtube, from When Harry Met Sally when Harry is telling their friends to write their names in their books before they get married.
Funny scene. Very appropriate to the current exchange in this thread.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Of course her Lawyer is delaying the process that is how he makes his money. Of course you Lawyer is going along with it blaming her lawyer, that is how he makes his money. They love clients like you who can't don't communicate.
If you two can sit down like adults and agree to a fair deal for the both of you it will save you thousands if not tens of thousands and move it along quicker.
You are making a big mistake.
Ok, so no matter how I explain it you just want to think that its the Lawyers, I'm actually copied in on the emails and saw the courier letter mailed over. My Lawyer is a friend of mine, she has nothing to gain as she is working on a flat fee.
There comes a point in time when we need closure... you just continue to think you know whats going on even when I am explaining it fully. Previuoulsy you even stated that my W was delaying to save money, now its the L's are trying to milk us... I get it, but when the other side does not respond I have no choice but to take it to court.
If you want to stop advising me thats fine I understand. This stuff is not easy to understand.
Why would my W want to keep me on her health insurance? Even my L said that she could drop me at this point, even though it would cost her a little in the end.
One of the things that we say here until we are blue in the face, and LBSs still can't get it: trying to use logic for why the WAS/WS does what they do will drive you insane. There is no rational logic to their actions. The have spaghetti for brains!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
BH - If you want to move forward with divorce let her know you would like to meet and discuss moving forward in a manner that is fair for both parties so the L's don't have to get involved. Heck my XW sent me an email.
It cost us $1000.....$750 for the L to write up the paperwork and $250 to file with the County.
The main point I am trying to make is if you come to an agreement in advance and you will save thousands.
Go ahead push it forward never speak to her again that's fine. Make it harder on your kids by not being able to be in the same room together.
I was trying to warn you that if you piss her off she will make it that much harder on you.
Personally, I was cordial to my W and played off her guilt and I got the martial home, am paying her half of would I could have and she barely took anything from the house.
BH - If you want to move forward with divorce let her know you would like to meet and discuss moving forward in a manner that is fair for both parties so the L's don't have to get involved. Heck my XW sent me an email.
It cost us $1000.....$750 for the L to write up the paperwork and $250 to file with the County.
I have tried and tried and tried.... i am really at the end of my rope.... no matter how hard I try she will not answer a message or phone call. Today was the first time she actually responded. She is completely lost, has had no contact with our children.... I need to move on and I am ready.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
The main point I am trying to make is if you come to an agreement in advance and you will save thousands.
Go ahead push it forward never speak to her again that's fine. Make it harder on your kids by not being able to be in the same room together.
I was trying to warn you that if you piss her off she will make it that much harder on you.
Personally, I was cordial to my W and played off her guilt and I got the martial home, am paying her half of would I could have and she barely took anything from the house.
Good luck BH!
Thank you LH, I have tried cordial, nice, no contact... nothing works. She clearly is pissed off, and that may have nothing to do with me. Maybe just maybe her plan is not working out the way she thought.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
