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On vacation with D4, so this will be brief.

Got a shot in the arm yesterday from W. Texted W about my weight loss. She texted back about how "super proud" she is for me.

Also, also she is seeing how hard I'm working on improving myself for the 180 day performance review in October. Again told me how proud she is and I should feel the same.

I texted her back saying that her saying that means a lot to me. No communication afterward until today. Nothing of noteworthy to share

Still aching. But only my support system knows my pain. Her friends and family are seeing the happy me.

Still DBing. Still pushing. Still GAL.

Seeing more signs.

Still hoping.

Day 34/115

Why are you texting her about your weight loss? That is pursuit.

Because I'm proud of the weight I lost.

Edit: And I got a positive response. Maybe I pursued a little when I told her how much what she said meant to me.

But I will not deny that those words she said made my day.

Back from weekend with D4. Went on impromptu trip to a town close to the Canadian border. We crossed and had the experience of going to a new country together. Many new memories made. She can't stop talking about it. I tear up everytime I talk to someone about our adventures. It's been a great bonding experience and I cannot wait to continue the tradition for the rest of my life.

Not much to say with W. Still DBing. Spending the night together (separate bedrooms) for three days. Still hurts to have her bedroom door closed. Don't think I'll move back in fully until we R.

I go to Vancouver BC in two weeks. First time I'll be spending more than a day in Canada. Planning on trip to Banff in October.

Still DBing. Still meeting with L for a consultation. Still hoping for R.

Month 2 (or 5) off to a pretty good start.

Good progress pain. Keep living your life and keep moving forward. None of the big changes come overnight.

You're doing really good at managing your emotional roller coaster.

This times 1000000!!! asking her if she noticed or notices negates the change....Now she thinks you are doing it for her and not for you....YOU HAVE TO MAKE HER AT LEAST THINK YOU HAVE MOVED ON!!!!

Meh.

Sure. I'll chalk it up as a pursuit mistake and move forward. The response I got from her suggested otherwise, but then again, what do I care?

Right?

Pain,

I think your doing well buddy, hang in there.

Much appreciated brother. Feel myself turning a corner. These next four months are going to be...interesting.

DB coach session 2 postponed until Friday.

Likely last post before I start part 4.

Feeling good.