The last we saw our heroine, she posted this and was promptly locked out of her thread. Not much has changed (except I went shoe shopping and worked a lot).
And I did miss a call from H on the cell yesterday morning. He left no message.
My last post was this:
As usual, seems I come to the right place with my thoughts.
Quote: ------------------------------------------------------------------------ I can't MAKE him face his problems, I can only face my own! ------------------------------------------------------------------------
I second this, o wise one. And I can't make him face the idea that maybe this is all within his control or that hey, when you stop looking at everything as negative it is amazing what you see. In fact... didn't I give up that behavior?
I have my own courage to deal with and that's enough!
I also can't make H talk to me. Thanks, Seattle and Holdingon for pointing that out. If he doesn't know what to say, well, that's really something for him to be thinking more about, not me. Though I would like to know what made him clam up and whether there is something I contributed to that. Could be that I did.
Anyone up for a pint o' Courage?
Bets, thanks for the coupon. Thank goodness there is no expiry date! I always let them go by! Yes, we all deserve a place where we can give voice to our feelings among friends, otherwise don't we just get ensnared in them?
This week's agenda: bit o'shopping with friends, danskinetics class, trip into the city with friends and all that house maintenance I have been avoiding.
I'm up for that pint--it doesn't have any alcohol in it, does it? I already over indulged in the potent stuff last weekend while in Seattle (poor Triple J and Seattle).
Nobody can ask more from you, friend. You absolutely DO have the courage to face your own stuff while detaching from his. This is the only way to go, at least IMHO. Any decision that results from getting to this level of thinking is best for both of you.
I hope you have a marvelous time doing the things on your schedule this weekend.
Big hugs to you!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
I am a little behind, but your recent post makes me think you really do have PERSPECTIVE....and right now that is the key. You have so much courage....and it's contageous...just wish your H would catch some. They are pretty weak at times...not willing to open up. Now, that's real courage. Their pride keeps them from healing and moving forward. It keeps them stuck and unhappy. Taking a risk, opening up, having courage to share...is the key. Stay on your track....it's the right one. It's giving me wise direction, and I appreciate it.
Betsey, thank you for the kind words of en-courage-ment. And yes, I was thinking it would be alcoholic. But then, as tends to be heard around my family: "I do my best thinking with a glass of wine (just one, mind you)."
Seattle, you are welcome. Hope it was helpful. Thank you for assisting in the techno envelope-pushing.
Mooka, you're SO kind. Thanks. I've learned so much from your thread... glad we're on this road together.
Weird thing today. I did return H's call and eventually got his cell after what sounded like a disconnection notice. No word back yet. But I did get 3 silent calls yesterday at the office and one music playing call at the office today. I hope this is some weird coincidence of people having the wrong number, and that *those* calls are not starting back up... because I don't need that.
What I need is something wonderful. So in the words of Kitti and Azure: something wonderful is going to happen!
Quote: What I need is something wonderful. So in the words of Kitti and Azure: something wonderful is going to happen!
I love this!!!
Shoe shopping....otherwise known as retail therapy..... is on my weekend agenda too!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
Thanks for visiting my post, too. We are on this crazy journey together....knowing others are searching, moving forward the best they can, gives me hope. I like the idea of "spend therapy"....I've gone there before. Hope you are having a good week-end! LOL Mooka
I see your posts everywhere and you always have such a great and positive outlook that I wanted to send you my thanks. It's great to have such good PMA come out visiting. Hope you enjoyed the retail therapy - best kind!
Randy, thanks for coming by. It's eerie almost... because I was posting something on your thread the other day-- I followed the Divine Ms. A (Azure) over there-- and got interrupted and didn't get back to it.
The gist was to take care of yourself... by that I mean REALLY sit down and figure out what it is you need to do that and work at it. It will make everything else just a bit easier. Trust me on this. I have a story to prove it, but I won't torture you with that.
