Great news NYGal! I am so happy for you. Can you tell us your recon story, and Pink's if you know how it went down? We rarely hear these stories as people generally drop off when piecing starts. It would be really insightful to know your story and what happened. Thanks.
To anyone here who was active 2-3 years ago, remember Pink? She wrote eloquently about her "stupid ex husband" (SXH) who had an affair. Her posts were always thoughtful and lengthy as she showed us her strength and determination - and vulnerability. She worked this program, and she gave many of us the strength and wisdom to carry on. We were all rooting for her. Sometimes she gave up hope, sometimes she came back more determined to reconcile with her SXH.
We met in early 2016 in a group working through relationship and marriage break-ups. One evening I heard her say, "Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear." Wait, I heard that all the time on this forum! I looked at her and said, um... I'm NYGal. She said I'm Pink! And we became friends who could support each other not only on here, but in person as well.
Anyhow, today my partner (yup, the same one who had an A and broke my heart) and I are going to Pink and SXH's wedding. They made it. We made it. You can too. Keep fighting. Listen to the DB coaches. Don't give up hope. GAL. Validate. Be strong. Don't give in. Be the person they'd be a fool to leave. It works if you work it!
Here's to Pink and to all of you who made it. And here's to all of you still struggling and hoping. Either you'll find renewed love in your R, or you'll find happiness without that person. Don't give up. You'll always have you.
This is why sandi says NEVER GIVE UP!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Thanks for the update. Great news! I remember reading both of your threads several years ago. Perhaps you both could paste a link here with your threads and a recent update? :-) The newcomers (and oldcomers) would surely appreciate that!
Best! Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela