Boundaries are good for us!!! I'm really and truly feeling and seeing the benefit in stating what is important to me... not from a control freak standpoint or one of rigidity, but love. Love for myself.
That's exactly it....in my old marriage...I used to stand up for myself all the time.
I was angry and disapointed and resentful, etc.
And felt helpless a lot.
Now, I have a great relationship and things are going so well!
Was afraid that my standing up for myself this time, was just more of the same of my past shameful behavior!
Betsey