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Guess this is the wrong forum for me. Found out the problem. Meth. Lolol. FML

Chris, I am so sorry man. Good luck, I will keep your family in my prayers.

Thanks Steve, she's mad as hell I accused her of it, not sure it's meth but it's something. In Florida she had a couple of rage spells, chest pains, throwing up, nose bleed. Etc.
All signs of withdrawal. She swears she's not.
Says I'm gonna look like a fool when I find out she's not. She's not staying at my house except when I work. Says I ruined any chance I had of us making our family work.
Yet this morning she said I done this to her making her stay at home with kids for 6 years. She basically admitted it. I don't know how to take care of 3 Ur old, a 6 Ur old with no help and work a 12 he night shift.
Just pray for me to have the strength to do it. Thanks everone

And my glazed ass eyed Ww has left us for the evening. Which I pretty much counted on since I had two days off she been planning to all week. Tuesday she said why don't I just work Thursday night since I need the money. Lol
Still agrees to counciling, which I don't understand. Maybe she means it when she says she wants our family to work. I have no idea what she's up to

Sorry Chris, but if you know the cause can you start looking into some help to deal with addiction? I don’t see how MC can help if there are other underlying causes, you can revisit it later

She's been telling me I love you, lately. When I avoid her she freaks out and it confuses her. She's doing the dance big time. Bad news is I found a Xanax today in her room. I hate it, she's prolly super hooked by now. I knew it was something. She's crushing them. Prolly snorting them. Counciling starts soon. I hope a different voice will get her straightened though I doubt it. I should probably just get her a bottle of them. Fml

Oh another not, I'm taking her to dinner for her b day. I'm gonna be cool and not bust her out about the pills. She's only 2.5 hrs late. Lol. Have to go get kids from sitter now when we were going alone so yea. Then she got mad at me for being impatient. I called her when she was an HR late. Smh

Chris, you are in for a ride, buddy. My WW is an addict, and I've dealt with more crap than I ever thought I would have to. In my opinion, MC isn't going to do any good at this point. If she wants counseling, I'd sugget that she do some IC. My WW has so many unresolved issues. The drug abuse is just a symptom of her problems. Her way to cope. She's going to have to want help before she's able to be helped. Took me a long time to figure that out. Addicts are selfish creature. Their motto is lie, cheat, and steal. Watch your back, and definitely do not believe anything she says. If she is addicted to something, she'll say whatever she thinks you want to hear, so she can get what she wants. Do yourself and herself a favor, and do not give her money. Enabling only makes the situation worse. It's going to be hard, but you can do it. I never thought I'd be able to raise 4 kids by myself, but I've been doing it for over 7 months now, and doing damn well at it too. You got this. Stay strong for you and your kids. And don't get caught up in her games. It's going to piss her off if you don't play, but everyone will suffer if you do. I wish you the best of luck...

Thanks mtb,
I may be over reacting or she is super good at hiding it.vstill not sure. We are getting back closer everyday, and I haven't noticed her being high on anything other than her weeds. Lol. That normal no Biggie. I'm happy at the moment and I feel we are gonna be ok, but you never know. She may flip the switch any second. I'm ready though, I don't think I'll hurt very much. Hell can't be like last few months.
Time will tell all. I'm just being the best I can be, the rest is up to her. Counciling is gonna be the deal breaker I beleive. I think that's what she's waiting to see.
Thanks for advise. Duly noted! Guard is up

The problem with addicts is that even less disruptive addictions can cause a flare of up of major addiction. This is why rehab centers don't allow smoking. Any addictive behavior CAN (note for those that want to get technical I am not saying WILL) morph into other addictions.

So likely unless she deals with it and gives up other addictive activity (weed) then you will be back to this point again sometime in the future.