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Glad to hear things are working out for you too BTW.
Ok y'all - just a little lesson in what we've been discussing on Ginger's thread about being patient.
As you all know, CMM has been coming on strong since I met him - sometimes a little too strong and I have had to bat him down a time or two. But he's smart enough to have taken the hint and backed off a bit, although he would still love to see me every day if I let him.
So last night I was home alone after work and - get this - kinda missed him! See, when you give them enough time and space, then the person you are dating has room to miss you!
Ok y'all - just a little lesson in what we've been discussing on Ginger's thread about being patient.
As you all know, CMM has been coming on strong since I met him - sometimes a little too strong and I have had to bat him down a time or two. But he's smart enough to have taken the hint and backed off a bit, although he would still love to see me every day if I let him.
So last night I was home alone after work and - get this - kinda missed him! See, when you give them enough time and space, then the person you are dating has room to miss you!
I can see that. Different strokes for different folks, I guess. Me and HQ are an everyday sort of thing and always were, but who knows, maybe it was the bond.
To play devil's advocate - if you don't want to see someone everyday, then are you really into the relationship?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
So last night I was home alone after work and - get this - kinda missed him! See, when you give them enough time and space, then the person you are dating has room to miss you!
So true, and pages right out of the DB books! I sooooo remember the early months after meeting my ex wife. She would call me on the phone or show up at my door, often within hours of having talked or saw her and say "did you miss me?" I was like, um no, how could I? Later on I even remember saying to her it felt to me almost like being chased around the house and backed into a corner hearing "do you miss me? Do you miss me? Huh, do you, do you miss me?" It was such a turn off that I nearly ended it with her. Obviously in hindsight I should have. I think MWD describes it as chasing the dog. The more you chase the dog, the more he runs from you. Stop chasing the dog and he often follows you where you go. Not at all calling you the dog in this scenario KML.
It's a very good and valid point though. Of course it requires balance as you also need to build attraction as well. It's also interesting that sometimes when given what we want, we don't want it as much anymore. I'm going to try to address that on my own thread.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
To play devil's advocate - if you don't want to see someone everyday, then are you really into the relationship?
Two replies to this: One, I'm an introvert and need time alone to recharge. I work with people all day AND have a houseful of family who also need my time and attention, so no, I don't want to see someone every day because that would suck up all my limited available time. Especially not when we've only started dating and I'm still getting to know them.
Two - having made such a mistake about crazy exBF, I'm trying to take my time and get to know CMM better. He's also in a slightly different place than me - I was just cautiously dipping my toes back into the dating waters after the traumatic experiences with crazy exBF (Love Avoidant FWB didn't really count as dating, I've known him a long time and that was just a friendly once a month thing, no strings). He's the first new guy I've dated since exBF and I'm on the alert for red flags. CMM on the other hand hasn't had a serious relationship since his divorce 4-5 years ago and would like nothing better than to settle into a serious long-term commitment right away. He's lonely and his girls don't live anywhere nearby and his social life revolved around parenting them when they were younger so he has a bit of a social void that he'd like to fill with seeing me. (Also since he's in sales he's likely more of an extrovert.)
Thinking back to my single 20's, I don't think even then that I wanted to see someone every day. I did see my ex everyday but that was because we were in medical school together. We did study together but in the first month I don't think he was over at my apartment every night.
The big test for CMM will be if I get put on the guest list for my favorite punk band this weekend - if he can't appreciate a great punk band we might be wrong for each other (just kidding)
(just kidding)