Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers Advice on my Scenario Pt.4

O - Stay strong.....I stood in front of the judge about a month ago. If I can do it so can you....

misdemeanor got knocked down to a violation I could have gone to trial but my lawyer told me I probably would have gotten prosecuted if I did so I got in order to pay 950 in restitution which is BS because I didn't do it. Fine suspended based on good behavior. The no contact order is now change so that we can only communicate via text or email and it has to only be regarding child care. That was her choice that was her call. She's continuing to use this as an avoidance tactic And to make me look bad so she can sell her BS story to whoever she needs to easier because of course I look like the bad guy. In reality she's just avoiding everything. I'm going to go celebrate By burning the wedding dress she left in the storage unit to be thrown away. I'm done dwelling on this I'm done giving her the benefit of the doubt. She is exactly what I thought she was since this all came out. A narcissistic manipulative Hurtful person. I'm just lucky she showed her true colors while I was still 30. Now I just have to Greystone the crap out of her for the next 15 years. The Injustice of this all is enough to make me sick. she's never going to admit what she did she's never going to show. Your remorse and at this point I'm convinced that she already knew this was all going to happen the day we were standing there speaking our vows. this entire thing was premeditated from day one. I was the targeted victim of a calculated 5-year attack. how am I ever going to trust anyone ever again?

Ok, take a deep breath. Give it some time. Don't do anything rash. You are still emotional right now and that's never a good state to make decisions in. Give it some time, get your mind off of it. Then come back and if you still feel the same then by all means make your decision.

Going gray with her is smart.

Dont burn the dress!! Any way you can sell it on ebay and recoop some of your financial loss?

It will get easier for you, now that you know who she is.

Too late. Its torched.

Please don't burn that dress. Sell it on offerup or letgo. I sell alot of stuff on those apps.

After you sell it go get a nice bottle of some really good liquor.

Or take your next date out all thinks to your W.

It was only 200 brand new. She never hed or preserved it, then left it in a puddle in the storage unit i payed for. Enough about the dress please. it was a relic from a fabricated relationship that was causing me pain to have in my possession that obviously held no sentimental meeting to my wife as she left it to be thrown away in a storage unit. It is gone now, purged from my life as it should be. Let's move on from the dress please. it's done and I'm glad I did it.

Washed or preserved.

Today was crappy but its over. It is what it is. Im left feeling very apathetic about this all. Ready to just get divorce over with. I married a snake oil saleswoman. She is a predator that chose a new target. Good luck and good riddance.
Now i can truly focus on GAL.

I am really pleased, seems like a reasonable compromise. And sounds like you carried yourself well.

Well now you know you can never unknow.

If you need to burn the dress burn It! Take it out on the damn thing. Personally I would have used it as bum wipes. But hey, each to their own.

There is plenty of time, vent away. It's safe here to vent.

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