JustSad, I always tell LBS here that yes she has decided to end the marriage. But that took a change of mind. After all, she vowed in getting married to be committed to you for life. So can she change her mind? Absolutely.
As far as your changes, your consistency is key. Even one slip up in the changes will set you back. Potentially all the way to the beginning. If you were controlling before then it is imperative that you don't control anymore. If you were verbally abusive then it is imperative you do not verbally abuse anymore.
Consistency and time. That is the key. Be consistent. Give it time.
You can't control her, only yourself.
Last edited by Cadet; 05/07/1804:45 AM. Reason: Start a new thread message
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
JustSad, I don't think you did anything improper regarding the massage, and it very much sounds like she regretted it LATER rather than during. You did a really, really excellent job of validating, kudos to you for that! Well done! You handled the discussion perfectly.
