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Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278511 04/20/04 07:06 PM
Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 4,885 sage Member
sage Member Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 4,885	Quote: Ok, I may leave so don't anyone panic. Pam -- I'm sorry that your conversation with CHL didn't go as you hoped...it sounds like you were hoping to hear that he had reconsidered moving ahead with the D? I'm not sure if you called him or he called you...which was it? I would like it if you stayed on the BB but understand if that's not what you decide to do. Here's the deal, Pam, I do believe it's ok for you to be "among us" while you are going thru this extremely painful time that seems to have just gotten a bit more painful for you. What would it take for you to use us as resources and to know that we won't turn away from you for being sad/mad/upset/emotional/whatever exactly it is that you feel and need to express? Sage Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.

Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278512 04/20/04 07:23 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	Hi Sage, Thank you, thank you for everything! I called him to see what he wants to do on taxes. They are done and ready to file. We had a very nice convo, he seemed glad to hear from me, went into all the problems he is having at work. Then said I'm going to bring up a bad topic. He started discussing the house. Then someone walked into his office so we shortly got off the phone. He sent IM that he was sorry he upset me. He was very nice and polite and trying to proceed with d settlement. I don't know what I'm going to do now. We had seemed to be getting along so much better, I was hoping he was reconsidering. I have been majorly sitting on my emotions. Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278513 04/20/04 07:37 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	Actually thank everyone for putting up with me and helping me and guiding me over the past year. For directing CHL and I through some convo's and reading all those gosh awful IM's Thank you all so very much. Love you all and best wishes and best of luck to you all in your lives and your R's! Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278514 04/20/04 09:03 PM
Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 656 totite Member
totite Member Joined: Aug 2003 Posts: 656	Hey Pam, Sorry you are upset. I think that CHL is trying to be nice and gentle so as not to upset you, but he is caught in a tough spot. If he is nice, you get your hopes up and think he has had a change of heart but if he isn't nice, then you get upset at his attitude. Do you get what I am saying? Hold your head up, enjoy that he is being nice to you. But don't let your hopes get up. If something nice happens, enjoy it. Don't hurt yourself further. We all care about you and are here to hold your hand through the coming days and weeks (and months) ahead. Lean on us okay!?!?! totite "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."

Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278515 04/20/04 09:43 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	We had joy we had fun We had seasons in the sun But the hills that we climbed were just seasons Out of time...... Somehow this seems appropriate this evening. Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278516 04/21/04 11:09 AM
Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 4,885 sage Member
sage Member Joined: Dec 2002 Posts: 4,885	How are you this morning, Pam? Sage Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.

Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278517 04/21/04 11:19 AM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	Good Morning Sage, I am better today. Not great but at least not sobbing. Thank you for asking. Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278518 04/21/04 11:40 AM
Joined: Jun 2003 Posts: 3,444 imalright Member
imalright Member Joined: Jun 2003 Posts: 3,444	{{Pam}} Morning, Girl! Deb bom:01/2003 D: 03/14/2006

Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278519 04/21/04 11:46 AM
Joined: Oct 2002 Posts: 2,453 Southeast Phoenix_In_Bloom Member
Phoenix_In_Bloom Member Joined: Oct 2002 Posts: 2,453 Southeast	Good Morning Pam! Sending you hugs. PIB

Re: Responsibility, Logic & Underreacting #278520 04/21/04 12:06 PM
Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana psluke OP Member
OP psluke Member Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 12,159 Indiana	Morning Deb, {{{Deb}}} Pam "We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"

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