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Hi totite,

Thank you for the advice. I am trying to do some of what you suggested.

I thought of something I meant to ask you, where I'm not getting regular exercise now, could that add to me being tired?

I haven't exercised in a long time. Since I was sick and I have quit cleaning the house so other than like digging the grave and bathing the shelties and grooming them, I'm not really getting any exercise.

I can't call and talk to staff even. I get an automated system and it is a real pain to get through even to leave a message. Plus I did discuss being dizzy with her last time I was there and she said should not be the Zoloft. Thought maybe sinus problems. Shoot maybe it is my ears.

Oh Pam as a person who was in your shoes not too long ago... ..I know EXACTLY how you feel.

In fact last night when I was making the call I was like "I'm not even going to post on the BB that I want to do this" I'm just going to do it!!, it was obsessive, I couldn't stop myself....

On the other hand I had left two messages with my H to call me and he didn't return my calls either..so if he would have called me back I would have relaxed.

Cathy

Hi Cathy,

I was pretty sure I had a good idea of how you felt when you made the call.

But I think you are right, maybe he needs to know you are human, you do have feelings and you DO CARE!

I am debating seeing if I can take off work this Thursday and Friday and then all of next week.

Going totally dark on David.

Anyone have any thoughts on doing that?

Reasons for doing this would be:

# 1 to try to keep my emotions in check and hopefully stay somewhat sane.

#2 it certainly gives him an opportunity in this last week to see what life totally without me would be like.

I think if I can take the time off that it would work for me. Actually better than sitting here and stressing and trying to manage my emotions would work and if I'm not sitting here it wouldn't be such a problem to not contact him.

Hey Pam -

Now that you mention it, as my allergies started this year, I was getting dizzy and feeling light-headed. Turns out my ears were full of gunk. I bought a home ear-cleaning kit at Target and did that until they were free and clear! It worked wonders and no more dizziness. (Gross though! but adults ears don't drain like my kids do)

Maybe that would do the trick for you too!

A few days off sounds good to me! If that would help you out then I say "go for it". Make sure you have plans though and don't just sit around or you will drive yourself crazy.

Maybe a garage sale? - LOL! Surely there are things around there that you'd like to get rid of . I plan to have one the 30th. I don't enjoy doing them, but last year the cash paid for the kids and my fun for the whole summer!

Keep me motivated to do it again Pam!

Well, he hasn't changed his mind any.

He brought up the house just a few minutes ago.

Then apologized for upsetting me. We were on the phone and he caught me off guard no good way to hide my voice being upset.

Got off fairly shortly, no bad interactions.

Ok, I may leave so don't anyone panic.