According to my poor, beleaguered XH, men are "always" the bad guy whether they really are or not. In his case, though, he TRULY was the bad guy, so I'm having a hard time with sympathy for him. I say all that to say that I do NOT believe that men are always the bad guy and just from what you have told us here(and I certainly don't even begin to know all of it, I'm sure), I would make a pretty certain bet that you were not, in fact, the bad guy. I mean, come on......as several ahead of me pointed out....married and divorced 3 times by 27......BIG, HUGE, GIGANTIC, ENORMOUS waving red flag there. Or is that just me that thinks that??????????? LOL As those before me said.....BIG, big bullet dodged on this deal. And, in the end, you got HQ.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Yes, ma'am! I didn't find out a lot of that until after the fact. I shudder to think I may have been number 4. And yeah, there is HQ. Hopefully good days ahead.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
