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Chris, your W is right on queue with the Friday night crazies.

So, umm ... Do not respond.

She's trying to frame it like the D will be on you if you don't respond. That's manipulative, it's low, and it's BS.

Got some late night calls from W; 4 of them. Did not answer. I know her friend is in town and they went out (meaning drinking)... Also received two texts:

“Ok Chris. Point made. We can end this.” - 1am

“Why are you not responding... if we you going to do this, we have to communicate. If you want to have an actual relationship- it’s fine. It makes me sad” - 2:30am

The 4 calls came in around 4 am.

Drunk texting is the worst. And those text will never matter, because she won't remember sending none of them or calling you.

So I messed up yesterday; was having a little to much fun with friends. Texted W;

Me: “Where are u”
W: “Why”
I got pre occupied, then 1:30 later
W: “Realy? wtf an I a booty call?”
Me: “I wanted to talk to you; but it was a mistake to text you in that way.”

She called right after that and I did not answer.

Man that’s embarrassing...

Ahhh yes! You already know you shouldn't have texted her in the first place. It's okay. Just notch it up as a mistake and don't do it again.

Do I need to do any damage control here. OR just chalk it up to a mistake. What about her asking if we can meet this week? Kinda lost right now after that mishap by me yesterday...

W just texted: "Why did you want to talk to me last night or about what".

Block her.

Sandi; I am trying to get down to brass-tax right now with you; and please be as blunt as you would like. I am trying to determine the outcome of this situation.

1) she will get so fed up with me not responding and not communicating with her that she will continue with her guilt and blame as I am the one causing the D (like she has been doing).

2) she will get so fed up with me not responding to communicating with her that she will file.

3) she will snap out and come to me with a humble and extreme apology asking for forgiveness, etc.

4) I will eventually file.

What am I missing.

I am just confused due to the advise I am getting from my IC (reach out to her to fix M), and the overall natural advise on this board (LLRT-WW). It is hard to wrap my head around such different practices.