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Thank you so much Sandi.. Everything you said was spot on. I havve so much to learn about myself, and all of this. It's raining today hard, so i am going to sit and read DR, then i may just go to work instead of wasting a vacation day sitting in this house.... Something she wouldnt expect me to do. I may just do it all week and then take the weekend off instead. There is a fishing tournament this week end i may just join. Not much but it's a start and it keeps me out of the house sitting around doing the wrong things. I have started to just get up and head out with no particular destination in mind, sometimes i go to the bait store ( Hot time in the old town tonight....LOL) and sit and talk with the regulars, sometimes i drive into town and talk with some folks i know that hang out on the court house square - ( Yes, i live in mayberry) and some nights i just drive. When i come back she always asks where ive been and i just say out.

Thanks for the advice Sandi. As a boyfriend, I would have just kicked W to the curb and replaced her with someone else by now. So asking what you would do as a boyfriend is a tricky question . As for filing for divorce. Just at the point of acting like a monk, while W is doing what she wants with OM just doesn't feel good. If she comes back one day, then we'll see what happens. But right now I no longer feel like waiting. Not sure how that will affect things with DB'ing.

Thanks Tread. The point I was trying to make about the boyfriend scenario was to help H's find an objective balance in the man they were when the W fell for him.....and the man he is now when the W is cheating on him. I hope that makes sense.