kml- does it work on fingers on the texting pad? LOL My mouth I can control. It's the texting piece that usually gets me.
Rose- Today's Leah DOES thank both you and last night's Leah for STFU.
Ownit- I resisted.
I guess he realized at some point last night. This morning I had a text from him that just said "I totally $ucked up. I am so so sorry."
I have no idea if that means overall, our relationship, forgetting the anniversary, or any other random thing.
I feel nothing. Nothing at all. Not anger, really not even sadness. Just gratitude that none of this hurts as much as it did 10 months ago. And also gratitude that in another 10 months, it will hurt even less.
I won't respond to his text b/c there's nothing to say.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
Struggling through my 13th wedding anniversary today, but so far, so good. I'm a strong little bit@h. I got this. (That's not to say a glass or two of wine won't be involved by bedtime tonight.)
Oh, sorry I missed this^^. ((( hugs )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
kml- does it work on fingers on the texting pad? LOL My mouth I can control. It's the texting piece that usually gets me.
Rose- Today's Leah DOES thank both you and last night's Leah for STFU.
Ownit- I resisted.
I guess he realized at some point last night. This morning I had a text from him that just said "I totally $ucked up. I am so so sorry."
I have no idea if that means overall, our relationship, forgetting the anniversary, or any other random thing.
I feel nothing. Nothing at all. Not anger, really not even sadness. Just gratitude that none of this hurts as much as it did 10 months ago. And also gratitude that in another 10 months, it will hurt even less.
I won't respond to his text b/c there's nothing to say.
Well, my INTERNAL approach has wavered as you know. Thinking it all out first, even if I only give myself a minute, helps. We have had one 6 minute conversation about health insurance, in the past year.
Wow, reading that ^^ makes me shake my head.
He reached out to my brother right before my nieces big shebang wedding, and then my brother would text me...So I had texted h right before the wedding weekend so he'd stop reaching out to my brother = me, right before all the hoopla.
But I did NOT think it out in advance and I gotta admit it was partly to remind h that my huge hilarious family, whom he loved (I THINK??)
was still having a great time without him. That I was having a blast.
Petty? God yes. Getting sucked in? YES.
But at least it was effective in getting him to back off then. He's reached out to me twice since and I've struggled mightily - MIGHTILY - in wanting to text him back directly
but I refrained. (It was about a 51-49 "election" in my head).
Leah, Remember our wildly inappropriate concern that "we don't want to be rude" when we don't respond to a WAH later reaching out?? Yes, let's both remember^^^ it.
Turning a corner...yes you have.
There are a lot of corners in this maze, but since the overall trend is upward - it's good.
Sorry the week was hard. Really.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Congratulations on making it through the anniversary without texting and then not responding the next day. It’s really hard for me to resist reaching out to my stbx but you give me hope that I can resist. Sounds like you are doing great at minding your own business, literally! Great job.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
Thanks, Gordie. It IS hard to resist reaching out. I fight it some days, and other days my anger makes me not even tempted. Today is NOT one of the anger days, though. I'm really missing him today. I think it's all the storm prep that I'm having to do, and thinking back to 4 weeks ago when he was here doing it all. Hard to believe he's the same person who stayed extra days 4 weeks ago to ride out the last hurricane with me, and since the missed anniversary, he's gone radio silent, even in the face of this storm.
It is what it is. Hang in there with NC. I keep believing the others here who say it will get easier.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
Thanks, girl. I needed that little push. You're exactly right. That IS what makes me happy. A busy, full life! I've got lots of GAL things planned through the weekend so I'm excited about that.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
(That's not to say a glass or two of wine won't be involved by bedtime tonight.)