Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers JMSTL thread-Part 5-What a beautiful GAL

So, I am done.

Not only is there OM there are TWO! And she has had PA with Both

AND she wants to be with one of our long time friends.

Eff this, I'm out

Oh man! I am so sorry to hear that.

What are you planning on doing? Listen, I don't have any evidence of my WAS having an A, but I know she's been exploring. I can't imagine how I would feel if I found out she had a EA/PA for reals. I think I would also probably feel done.

I know this is huge!! But, don't think of dropping DB/DR. It is the best chance of you making out of this whole and with strength. Stay strong friend!

Jm.....I am sorry dude. How did you find out. Unfortunately I think all of us will find out that reality sooner or later.

I echo M...stay stong and realize this is not your doing. You did nothing wrong to deserve. It's her issue so use that anger in a positive direction. You have young kids and will be in each others lives for a long time. Make her realize how bad she screwed up!

So sorry JM. That's a lot of info to come across. My only advice is to try and let your emotions settle before you do anything or make any decisions.

Hey man! Don't drop off the boards. Come back and tell us what's going on with you? I agree with what J and Kylo have said - you did nothing wrong to deserve this and let your emotions settle before make any decisions.

Friday night she was 20 minutes late dropping off the children. Second time in a row this has happened, and yet when I brought it up the first time, she said, It's not like it happens all the time. I left, and went to the gas station, because I should not be kept waiting with no message. Unfortunately she saw me when I was walking back, otherwise I would have made her wait at the door or something.

Yesterday, when I went to drop off the kids, she wasn't even there! She sent her parents to get the kids. I am absolutely livid about this. That was more time I could have spent with my kids. She knew at least an hour in advance, and did not notify me (takes her parents an hour to get there. They are also retired and on a fixed income). I believe she was with OM #2

I will not tolerate the disrespect of my time.

A 'friend' contacted me on FB and said that she was deleting us both, bc she was torn and didn't want to get caught in the middle. Turns out, she only removed me. So, at least one liar sniffed out.

I removed every one of our mutual friends that I met through her, even ones that are I guess you could say 'my side'. Most of them understand. And one of her friends was even like, I really disagree with W. When I come into town I want to see YOU. (She is basically like a sister to me)

I will DB in regards to showing her what she lost, but at this point folks, I am now looking forward to our divorce. I really don't think there is any saving here. I had to seriously ask myself, "Would I want her back right now?"...and the answer is No.

I got my BR fixed up a little. Got a new bedroom set, some nice sheets and pillows, and bought a 55" TV.

You said this in your original post. How did you find out as in your response you said "you believed" she was with OM#2 but only referenced her disrespecting your time.

I know she was with #OM2 Saturday night. I just don't know if she was with him still at the time she was supposed to receive the kids.

If I understand J correctly, I am guessing you have some concrete evidence of the OMs.

Maika